13 Powerful Lessons for Aging Well, Inside and Out
Life is short. Take the trip. Buy the shoes. Eat the cake. (Anonymous)
The older I get, the harder it is to argue with this advice. Knee deep into my sixth decade, I’ve gathered a few more pearls of wisdom along the way. These lessons are helping me blaze an easier trail through my journey of aging.
The first seven are about “self care.” I’m discovering we don’t need a Fountain of Youth if we can establish a few simple ground rules. Here are a few suggestions for aging well.
Choose the Movements of Your Life
Remaining active is vital to aging well. Whether it’s tending the garden or running a marathon, identify ways to get moving that harmonize with how you live your life.
Accept Those Last Five Pounds
Forgive even those last 10 pounds. Overall health is what truly matters. So does self-compassion.
Claim Your Sense of Style
My personal style is a work in progress, just like I am. In a nutshell, I choose to wear what makes me smile. Why not let our outerwear be one reflection of our inner selves?
Hire a Young Hair Stylist
I once heard that your hair stylist should be at least 20 years younger than you are. I don’t know if that’s a “rule,” but my younger stylist encourages me to take a few chances. It’s only hair, after all.
Put Yourself Out There
Feeling vulnerable is exhaustive at any age. Trying new things takes courage. Whether we want to make new friends or begin a new business, we can take at least the first step toward our heart’s desire. It’s usually worth the risk.
Spend Time with People You Love
We pay a price for toxic relationships, and they rarely get healthier despite our noblest efforts. Of the millions of people in the world, why not seek out the ones who lighten you up?
This is easier to do if we surround ourselves with people who light us up inside. And with all the bad news blaring every day, a few cat videos can also feel pretty good.
Self-acceptance and authentic relationships are only pieces of the peace we’re seeking. How we walk through the world is about our “attitude,” which is an inside-out job.
Take Things as They Come
The future isn’t promised, and the past can’t be changed. The only path to inner peace is to stay in the present moment and address what’s happening NOW. Aging well is as much about flexibility as anything else.
Focus on What’s in Front of You
Stress and anxiety can quickly overtake us even when we’re able to take things as they come. When crises become an endless stream of uncertainty, focus only on the business at hand. Handle one task at a time, and slowly go from there.
Seek Only the Good
From homemade cakes to long-time marriages, nothing’s perfect. But most things have an element of good in them. And that gem is worth our full attention.
Forever holding one’s peace may work at a wedding, but at this stage of life we’ve earned the right to have our voices heard. Sometimes that’s uncomfortable. But your truth is your truth.
Release Your Inner Artist
A lot has been shared about aging well through the arts. Creativity is a personal experience that may or may not involve a musical instrument or a paintbrush. Discover a way to express yourself, then go out and make your art.
There are many channels for continuing a learning journey at 60 and beyond. Road Scholar and Osher Lifelong Institute are dedicated to this. Be it a classroom or a simple guidebook, find an avenue to learn what you’ve always wanted to know.
I’m still adding to this list of lessons I’ve learned along the way. Maybe I’ve always known them. They’re certainly ringing true in this season of life.
What does “aging well” mean to you? What advice are you following now that you are in your 60s? What are you attempting or doing now that you didn’t have the courage to try when you were younger? Join the conversation!
Marcia Smalley is a certified life coach, writer and teacher. She delights in inspiring mid-life women to step confidently into their next act and loves helping them design a joyous, expanded life. Marcia firmly believes that you are not too old, and it’s not too late, to create the life you love. Please visit her website here.