sixtyandme logo
We are community supported and may earn a commission when you buy through links on our site. Learn more

26 Surprising Habits of Happy Older Women (#18 Might Catch You Unprepared)

By Ellen Bachmeyer October 29, 2023 Mindset

The beauty of aging is that we get to take time to reflect on who we are and what we want out of the rest of our life. It can be a time when our lives blossom. Here are some observations from the many conversations I have had with aging women.

The thoughts below are just thoughts. Happiness is experienced in the moment. For a thought to become a habit, it requires awareness, intention and dedicated action. If you choose to embrace any of these thoughts and make them habits, it will definitely create space for a happy and thriving life.

1. They feel comfortable in their own skin. They have “come into their own being.”

2. They never stop learning.

3. They feed their intellect and soul with a new, beautiful awareness of themselves and the world, every day.

4. They don’t sweat the small stuff. They see the larger picture.

5. They are always trying new things. They don’t believe in the saying that “curiosity killed the cat!”

6. They appreciate “alone time.” They understand the difference between lonely and alone.

7. They live for the journey, not the destination.

8. They spend time in nature because they know nature is a reflection of their own beauty and gives them a larger context in which they live and love.

9. They know the value of friendship and are always growing and seeking new friends.

10. They are not afraid of emotions. They feel deeply and definitely don’t see emotions as a sign of weakness.

11. They do not sit in judgment of others or of themselves.

12. They understand the sacred nature in each person that makes up their world.

13. They do not spend their time on relationships where people do not nurture and nourish one another.

14. They have healthy personal boundaries, not walls.

15. They respect their children’s boundaries and admire their successes.

16. They do not blame others because in doing so they give away their power.

17. They seek love.

18. They take care of their bodies and leave the shame of not having the ‘perfect’ figure for the younger generations. If possible, they are physically active.

19. They are invested in the greater good and seek to make some kind of contribution in the world.

20. They know their wisdom and speak it.

21. They have a creative aspect of their life – be it writing, music, a hobby or craft.

22. They don’t sweat the small stuff. They always trust they will find a way through or around a troubling issue.

23. They understand that it is okay to ask for help.

24. They see the glass as half-full and not half-empty.

25. They laugh, sing, dance, read and celebrate every moment of their life.

26. They have a vision and intention for each day, week, year and decade. They set an intention each day for thriving.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Do you have habits that bring you happiness? Which ones are you especially proud of? Please share in the comments below.

Subscribe
Notify of
guest

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

14 Comments
Inline Feedbacks
View all comments
Jena

Love this!

CyndeeKay🌻

I have an old Brighton bracelet that’s engraved “Embrace the journey”. I’m striving to be the best version of me.

Gail Zugerman

Love this blog! Different. Upbeat. Important stuff!! Thank you.

June THIEL

I agree with all of the above! I am blessed, in that I have both musical and creative gifts and skills, so am happy to still express myself, be it through art, calligraphy (my profession), singing or playing the piano. The only thing I seem to not get quite right yet, is to form true friendships with others who live in the retirement community I call home…….

Laura

I live in a community of mostly retired people and I have the same issue! I think it’s because so many seem to be entrenched in their ways and I’m always looking for ways to expand.

Nancy E Nicklas

I agree Laura- try as we might for 7 years a retirement community seemed “cliche-ish”.
We became detrimental to our health so we moved & are much happier now. Our neighborhood now is a mixture of families & friendlier.

Penny

This is so interesting and revealing! My partner and I live in a community with mostly young families, so it’s been tough to find friends our own age. We thought a 55+ community would be a good answer for us, but now I’m wondering if that’s the best move. I have heard they can be cliquish. He’s 73 and owns his own business, I am 69, retired and very active. Hmmm…. Any other thoughts on this one? And I love the list!

Gloria

I love the entire list! I still feel some tings we may do and some we may not! This list may make us look at ourselves in a positive or negative way! It is something to think about!

1 2 3

The Author

Ellen Bachmeyer, LCSW, is a practicing psychotherapist and Life Coach, she has supported women in their 50s, 60s, and beyond through many life transitions from divorce to caretaking and grieving, to remarriage, grand parenting and encore careers. Ellen offers assistance in recapturing your life's vitality, rebalancing, satisfying your needs and renewing your power to take meaningful action in your life.

You Might Also Like