As our age of wisdom approaches with entering our fifth decade of life, many of us realize we want to share our values and hard-earned lessons with younger family members. We want to guide them toward valuable choices. After all, they don’t have to learn everything the hard way.

My two daughters blessed me with seven grandchildren. I pondered, what could I leave them of value? Certainly, money and things will come their way.

But, will they know how to live a good and kind life? Will they choose what’s important and know what to discard? Will they understand where to place their good hearts, and how to protect themselves from misuse?

 
 

Aging and the Privilege of Perspective

As we get older we earn the privilege of perspective. We have acquired a plethora of knowledge, experience, skill and numerous life lessons. We now have the wisdom to say, “This too shall pass.” “I’ve been there and look at me now.” “You are learning an important lesson that will support your life.”

We can say all those things, but true understanding will come later in their lives, because young ones don’t have the personal history that comes with age.

Yet, we can begin to leave our grandchildren a legacy of values now that they can draw on over time. It is a gift that we can give them to help them mature. It’s a way to support their lives in the present and in the future.

Values to Share with Grandchildren

I want my grandchildren to know the importance of integrity, truthfulness, gratitude, caring about others, giving of oneself for the greater good, being responsible for one’s own life and supportive of others, being fair to all concerned, having a good set of values and a good moral code.

I want them to have a life of purpose, a good attitude and to be willing to work toward successful outcomes. I want them to understand that we learn from our mistakes by looking at our failures as tools toward personal growth.

I want them to learn to not get self-critical, but find solutions and move forward. I want them to know that happiness comes from within. Oh, they have so much to learn! And, we have so much to teach.

I give many examples of values in the last chapter of my book Revivement: Having a Life After Making a Living. I wrote the book to support everyone transitioning to and living a retirement life. It seemed fitting that there should be a chapter about legacy.

The book also talks about aging, how to have one’s best life yet, scientific research and innovations for longevity. It contains 15 exercises, including one on values. It’s a guide and a good friend to those who want to think about and plan their present and their future.

After all, many of us have at least another 20-50 years left on earth. I’m 78, so I’m counting on being here for a while.

Have you thought about the legacies you want to leave your grandchildren? Please share some of them so our readers can enjoy a variety of ideas they might want to incorporate into their legacies.

Gloria Dunn-ViolinGloria Dunn-Violin is a professional speaker, workshop leader, and author of Revivement: Having a Life After Making a Living. Her 25-year background in organizational behavior and development, constant research and personal experience makes her uniquely qualified to guide retirees on their journey. She also hosted a cable TV talk show and writes for publication. Visit her site at www.havingalifenow.com.

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