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About Becki Cohn-Vargas

Becki Cohn-Vargas, Ed.D works as an independent consultant to schools and organizations with over 35 years as a teacher, principal, curriculum director, and superintendent in public education in California http://beckicohnvargas.com. She developed a standards-based bullying and intolerance prevention curriculum and has worked to create accepting and inclusive climates in over 150 schools and colleges across the US. With Dr. Dorothy Steele, she co-authored the book, Identity Safe Classrooms: Places to Belong and Learn. Becki and her husband, Cohn-Vargas, are also working to develop an environmental research center on their private reserve in the Nicaraguan rain forest http://makenguereserve.com. They live in El Sobrante, California, and have three adult children living in the Bay Area.
Latest Posts | By Becki Cohn-Vargas
Tough Career Ending? Bounce Back and Get Ready for Retirement!
3 years ago

Tough Career Ending? Bounce Back and Get Ready for Retirement!

I am not the only person I know in my sixties who had a bad work experience at the end of their career. One friend was in his hospital bed after cancer surgery when his boss told him he was being forced to retire. Another friend worked for years as a successful paramedic and was then given the worst shifts in attempts to squeeze him out. Read More

The Latest Technology is Amazing But Can Never Replace a Hug
3 years ago

The Latest Technology is Amazing But Can Never Replace a Hug

My father turned 90 in May. We had a small birthday party at his house, which I filmed on my phone. He was blowing out candles on a cake, although he could not eat the cake. He has a feeding tube and has not eaten normally for over 20 years, since his last cancer surgery. Read More

AIDS Impacts Older Adults Too – Here’s Something You Can Do to Help
3 years ago

AIDS Impacts Older Adults Too – Here’s Something You Can Do to Help

In our 60s, we are old enough to remember the days when the scourge of AIDS seemed to hover everywhere. Many of us have known someone who was dying or have lost someone to the disease. Read More

Achieve the “Impossible” to Get More from Life After 60
3 years ago

Achieve the “Impossible” to Get More from Life After 60

How many times do we avoid doing something because we decide that it’s impossible? My sister, Ruth, came up with the following amazing example. Read More

Amending Our Process: Crafting Apologies that Heal, Part 2
3 years ago

Amending Our Process: Crafting Apologies that Heal, Part 2

In the first part of this blog, we learned two ways to apologize, expressing regret and taking responsibility from Chapman’s work on The Five Languages of Apology.

Here we learn the other three more ways to apologize: making restitution, repentance or commitment to change, and asking for forgiveness. I am proud to share my sister’s article and so lucky to have a wonderful sister and be so close to her. Here is the second part of her article… Read More

Amending Our Process: Crafting Apologies that Heal, Part 1
3 years ago

Amending Our Process: Crafting Apologies that Heal, Part 1

I recently published a blog on the Five Languages of Love, based on the work of Gary Chapman for Sixty and Me. Subsequently, I discovered that my sister, also an author and therapist, had written an article on the Five Languages of Apology, also based on his work. I am so happy to be able to share it here on Sixty and Me. Here’s what she said… Read More

What is the True Meaning of International Women’s Day?
3 years ago

What is the True Meaning of International Women’s Day?

The setting was a small town in the heart of the Nicaraguan jungle along the San Juan River. The large room was full of women, seated in chairs draped in white with huge pink bows. They were women of all ages, dressed in simple blouses and skirts. Read More

How to Develop the 3 Most Important Types of Compassion
3 years ago

How to Develop the 3 Most Important Types of Compassion

“The cultivation of compassion is no longer a luxury, but a necessity, if our species is to survive.” – The Dalai Lama

In the first part of this blog, I shared several research studies that point to a compassionate lifestyle as a path to health and happiness. In this blog, I will share what I am learning at the Compassion in Education Working Group about cultivating and practicing the compassionate lifestyle. Read More

Why Cultivating Compassion is Essential for Healthy Aging and Happiness
3 years ago

Why Cultivating Compassion is Essential for Healthy Aging and Happiness

Compassion engages our capacity for love, wisdom, courage, and generosity. It’s a mental and emotional state that’s boundless and directionless, grounded in the great spiritual traditions of the world but available to every person simply by virtue of our being human. – Kristin Neff

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Letting Go and the Art of Parenting Adult Children
3 years ago

Letting Go and the Art of Parenting Adult Children

Have you held a baby lately? I recently held little Ezra, a 10-month-old who had recently learned how to do a high five. Once he got the hang of it, he did over and over. How juicy and delicious. Read More