What if death and life were not opposites? What if they were both parts of reality? If that was true, would we still hesitate when needing or wanting to talk about death and dying? How can we make these conversations more organic, more natural?
Smile if you have made New Year’s resolutions in the past. Now smile again if you have kept them all year. It is truly difficult to keep those ‘promises’ going for an entire year, isn’t?
Have you recently received a negative diagnosis from your doctor? Or have you ever talked with your family about end-of-life issues? Have you and your family discussed quality of life versus quantity of life? How about a DNR, or life support, or feeding tubes, or home versus nursing facilities?
Don’t you love to hear someone say, “I remember holidays at my grandparents’ house. I loved the smells and the decorations, especially the _____________. That was my favorite!” Do your kids, grandkids or family friends have specific decorations they always comment on?
Yes, it is fall, which means we are approaching the holiday season. The retail stores are crowded with holiday decorations, which, ultimately, poses the question, “Should we decorate our living space when we are a caregiver?”
Have you noticed that sometimes people don’t speak to disabled or ill persons because they don’t really know what to say? The same is true about caregivers. If friends don’t know exactly what to say to us, sometimes they say nothing at all.
Caregivers are usually dependable, persistent, detailed, vigilant – and seemingly tireless. But not many people would characterize caregivers as lonely. Yet as a caregiver, I have experienced many periods of loneliness. Depending on your circumstances, you may feel the same way.