There has been a lot of talk lately about the increase in silver divorces among baby boomers. As our children leave the house and we start to look towards the coming decades, more of us are deciding to go it alone.
There are certain holidays like Valentine’s Day that put the word “love” under a magnifying glass. We use this word to embody so many emotions, ranging from trust and appreciation to passion and desire. The words we use to describe love say a lot about how we view the connections between people.
When parents are unable to raise their children, grandparents often step in. In the U.S., there are millions of grandparents raising grandchildren. These families are often called “grandfamilies.” Of course raising your own grandchildren is not without it’s challenges, but, it can also be rewarding.
The tradition of gift giving is an important part of the holidays and some people take it very seriously. Grandchildren produce long and detailed fantasy lists with items that they know are pushing every possible button. Where exactly can one buy teleportation machines these days? Unless you start planning in July, you might be waiting in long lines for those in demand gifts.
I guess we can all blame Santa for some of our holiday food traditions. Carefully placed cookies for Father Christmas and carrots for the reindeer are part of the holiday experience for most homes with children.
Even though families are spread across the world these days, the holiday season offers an opportunity to connect even the most tenuous dots. Many families live close enough to visit each other. This is great because everyone can connect physically with great food, entertainment, walks or fun planned activities.
Sleigh bells, holiday lights, Christmas markets, carols, Santa Claus, high street displays and gingerbread houses. December is here and the holidays have officially started. No matter where you live, the holiday season is about to take over your life for the next few weeks.
In recent years, a lot has been written about the fact that divorce rates among people over 50 are rising, while other generations are staying married longer. For example, over the last 20 years, baby boomer divorce rates have increased 50%.
The relationship between mother-in-laws and daughter-in-laws is complicated. At its best, it can be like finding a long-lost daughter. At worst, it can be a center of tension for the entire family.
When you think about it, having a daughter-in-law is a beautiful thing. After all, this is the person that your son has chosen from the billions of women in the world. She is also the mother of your precious grandchildren. And, while this may be hard for many mothers to accept, she is now the center of your son’s life.
So, with so much riding on the mother-in-law to daughter-in-law relationship, why is it so hard to get right? Why do so many of us feel a sense of tension, or even outright hostility, from the most important woman in our son’s life?