Are you doing what you love and have a purpose that propels you to get up in the morning and pursue it? It’s believed that having a reason for being will extend your longevity and help you stay healthy. The Japanese call it “ikigai” (ick-ee-guy).
What excuses actually work? The short answer is… none of them.
If you are like everybody else I know, you have found that excuses show up with monotonous regularity and come from many directions.
Everything in our life changes as we age and start on the journey of our last chapter in life. We have to pay more attention to what we eat, our exercise, our daily life and even our thoughts.
I have a degree in Religious Studies from the University of Colorado. All my life, I have felt that the basic principles shared in all organized religions align and are built on common values. These include kindness, love, tolerance and respect for each other.
Many women say they feel invisible as they age. Feeling invisible when you want to be noticed and acknowledged is one side of the coin. Other women, though, feel relief when mid-life attracts less unwelcome attention.
In the summer months, they crowd the waiting area where I get my hair trimmed. They are filled with laughter and secrets and a great deal of joy.
When I see them, I know immediately that they are either bachelorettes out for a day of primping and camaraderie or they’re getting ready for a wedding that’s about to happen.
As an older woman, you have years of experience and wisdom. It would be wise to assume that you’d ooze self-confidence.
However, that isn’t always the case, especially in a world that is focused on youthful appearances. We say, “Screw that!”
When I was young, one of my mother’s favorite television programs was I Love Lucy. In this sitcom, actress Lucille Ball played the role of a scheming housewife who often used tears to soften her husband when he confronted her ‘childish’ behaviors. Not surprisingly, my own mother behaved in similar ways.
Beyoncé has a famous song – perhaps her most famous – called “All the Single Ladies.” I’d like to retitle it “All the Senior Ladies.”
This does not come as a call to get a guy to marry you, which is the theme of Beyoncé’s song, but as a call to be adventuresome. If you like it, go for it. Whatever that “it” might be. It could be sky-diving, cycling, Tango, going back to school or painting.
Conflict is a part of life. Few of us live without it. But what if conflicts from your past are interfering with your moving forward?
Conflict is never an easy thing to deal with, but old, deeply rooted disagreements can really affect your body, mind and spirit.