I have a wonderful keynote I present called, presumptuously, The Meaning of Life. I talk – and sing – about life lessons I have learned from elders, particularly those in nursing homes.
When my boys were small, I wanted them to feel comfortable around “old people.” We lived far away from grandparents and had little natural interaction with people older than 30, so I thought that visiting the county nursing home would be a good solution.
When you are suffering from low self-esteem, it’s easy to get caught up in your own thoughts.
No matter how hard you try to convince yourself that you are worthy of praise, there is always a little voice in the back of your head, pouring cold water on your arguments. In some cases, thinking about our lack of self-confidence can actually make you feel worse.
If you ask most people what they need to get more from life after 60, they will tell you that they need more money. But, is this really true? Or, do we just have a tendency to believe that money will solve all of our problems?
Want to find happiness? Learn to recognize the importance of each positive step that you take.
Think about it. How many times have you talked yourself out of taking a small step towards a healthier and happier life? Have you ever asked yourself, “Does it really make a difference if I go to the gym today?” or “Is one slice of chocolate cake really going to hurt me?”
I never thought about death much, other than as a concept, until my husband was diagnosed with cancer in 2010. Then it made its entrance with a bang. Even though he was 65, it felt far too young to be contemplating death.
A week ago, I was asked to participate in a performance project called, “Maiden, Mother, Matriarch.” I was one of the women/performers in the Matriarch group. In preparation for the performance, we had a few heart-to-heart discussions about our experience of being 60.
For most of our lives, we measure ourselves against other people. When we ask ourselves, “was I a good mom?” we are comparing ourselves to all of the other moms in the world.
Have you ever been a victim of your own thoughts?
If you are not sure, just think about the one or two or 50 nights when you were plagued by thoughts and constant thinking and you couldn’t shut down your mind and get to sleep. Or, you woke up in the middle of the night and you couldn’t go back to sleep.
Being a generous person feels good. We know from personal experience that it feels great to acknowledge another person and connect with them in a kind and helpful way. Many of us have also experienced the self-confidence and sense of purpose that comes from helping others.