Over the last few years, I have had the opportunity to talk with 1000s of women in the Sixty and Me community. Through these discussions, nothing has struck me more profoundly than the desire for women over 60 to live life in their own way.
Reaching retirement is a blessing and a curse. On the one hand, after decades of following other peoples’ rules, there is a sense of relief that you will finally get to live the way that you want to. On the other hand, it’s easy to feel lost, fearful or sad when reaching this important milestone. You know logically that you are retiring from work, not life, but, it doesn’t always feel like that.
I love the sunshine. There is something about basking in the warmth of summer – wearing sunscreen of course – that makes me feel deeply happy. Or does it?
After reading a new study from the University of Westminster, I’m beginning to question whether the idea that the weather affects my mood is all in my head.
Do people smile because they are happy? Or, are people happy because they smile? These questions get to the heart of life after 60. Of course, both statements are true. Smiles are a reflection of how we feel. But, at the same time, happiness requires conscious effort.
You probably know by now that laughter is good for you. For starters, according to the Mayo Clinic, laughter is an immediate stress-reliever. Over the long-term, it may even help to boost your immune system and increase your sense of personal satisfaction. In addition, as I just wrote about, laughter may also be one of the keys to building trusting relationships.
Finding happiness after 60 can be tough. Many of us are struggling to save enough for retirement. Others are dealing with changing social circumstances or a divorce. All of us are discovering that staying in great shape isn’t as easy as it used to be. That’s the bad news.
Turning 50 is a milestone. A few of us worry – unnecessarily, I might add – about “getting old.” But, for the most part, we recognize that life after 50 is a time for exploring our passions, getting in great shape and preparing for decades of active life ahead.
It might seem strange to use a quote from Lady Gaga to explain how I feel about the Sixty and Me community, but, it is surprisingly fitting. She once said, “I think tolerance and acceptance and love is something that feeds every community.” Let me explain why I find this quote so powerful.
What was the happiest moment of your life? It’s a harder question that it appears on the surface. Happiness is an abstract concept and one that is difficult to measure. Its source is also a mystery.