“If I’m so fabulous, then why am I single?”
This question came to me and I realized I have to write about it. I often ask it of myself. I see my friends with their various backstories, neuroses and impossibilities, in relationships. High maintenance types, neurotics, just plain crazies, you name it, they have a partner.
I don’t know who first said that the brain is the most important sex organ, but, whoever they were, they were correct! In our 20s and 30s, it is easy to think of sex as an entirely physical process. Unfortunately, this focus on our external appearance can lead to poor relationship choices, low self-esteem and a lot of confusion.
If you were brought up in the 60’s and 70’s, chances are you were trained to be a strong, independent woman. It’s likely you were taught you didn’t need a man in your life. You thought that anything a man could do, you could probably do even better.
A long time ago, marriages commonly occurred when two people grew up together in a small town and got to know each other over time.
The definition of Ghosting according to Urban Dictionary is, “The act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the subject is dating, but no longer wishes to date.”
A better definition is… you and I meet, we have amazing chemistry, we hang out and have awesome sex. I bond to you and then you disappear, ultimately breaking my heart. You don’t answer my calls or texts and I am so confused and concerned.
I am not a sexologist. I am a “normal” sixty-year-old woman who wants to ponder in public. By the way, I hate the word “normal” – it doesn’t mean anything. I don’t think I’m a particularly revolutionary thinker. I’m only stating the obvious in my thoughts below. But I’ll let you decide!
The senior dating game can be tough. Not only can it bruise your ego, but, it can also bring up all the unhealed rejection that happened earlier in life.
Recently, I received a letter from a woman who told me nothing is working in her dating life. No one is interested in her. No one is interested in her friends either.
They, like her, are experiencing loneliness and a lack of contact with men.
Is sex after 50 normal? Sex and the City star, Kim Cattrall thinks so!
If Hollywood is to be believed, the only people having sex in this world are perfectly sculpted 20-somethings with radiant skin on the outside and an animal passion on the inside. The idea that people in their 50s and 60s enjoy sex is almost as forgotten on screen as it is in real life.
One of the biggest aging stereotypes is that sex after 60 doesn’t matter. What nonsense! Do our bodies change as we get a little older? Of course! Do our attitudes towards sex shift as we move through the phases of our life? In many cases, yes, they do. But, just because our attitudes change doesn’t mean that we become non-sexual beings in our 50s or 60s.