Learning to live alone can be very empowering – and expensive.
As solo women, we often prefer to live alone, but we want to do so in an environment which also provides social connections, activities and the sense of community we crave. Community makes it easier to maintain our independence by allowing us to “live alone, together,” the core of the Entourage concept that I write about in my book Retiring Solo.
My dad is a baby boomer. He runs every week with a couple of friends and they often talk about their millennial children.
This group of millennials, including me, are in our late 20s and are a pretty diverse bunch. We have started businesses, travelled the world and lived in exotic locations, changed jobs and moved multiple times and have altogether lived very different lives from our baby boomer parents.
A few years ago I was looking after a gallery exhibition. Sometimes artists have to share this duty for joint exhibitions and this was my turn.
It’s easy to understand the appeal of independent living communities. By the time we reach our 60s and 70s, many of us feel like we want a little extra support. We want to live in a community that helps us to stay social and active. At the same time, we value our independence and aren’t willing to accept invisibility.
One of the things that makes my 60s so enjoyable is that I have discovered the fountain of vitality in the form of learning. Learning contributes to the joy and purpose in my life. Each morning I make a cup of tea and go into my office where I study.
Baby boomer women are masters of reinvention and no-one represents this trait in our generation better than Madonna. Over the decades, she has always had her finger on the pulse of popular culture. Her music, sometimes shocking, yet always entertaining, almost always represents the direction of our society.
In retirement, as in almost all things, we’re doing things differently than generations previous. Always-sunny, closed-in, air-conditioned, cookie-cutter communities in Florida are no longer the default destination. Like seriously, NO. But what is the plan?
One of the fun things about getting a little bit older is that you have the opportunity to see trends come… and go… and come back again. This is true in fashion and, more recently, it has been true in the world of entertainment.
When most people talk about ageism in the media, they usually refer to the number of female roles that are available. Or, they may discuss the fact that female actresses are paid less than their male counterparts.
Why is it that so many adult children use their parents’ home to store all their childhood mementos? What effect does this have on them? And how does it affect the parents who allow it?