When I was a little girl, I was so skinny that, if I turned sideways, I would disappear. In fact, I recently found a picture of myself as a teenager and couldn’t help taking a few moments to celebrate the one time in my life that I didn’t have to think about my weight.

Over the years, my body changed. I had two children and, like many women, lived a relatively sedentary lifestyle. As a result, the pounds added up year after year.

I never suffered from an eating disorder, but, like many women, I can understand how such a pattern could be easy to establish.


That said, through conversations with the women in our community, I discovered that many of us do deal with various eating disorders. These range from overeating to bingeing.

So, when I discovered the book The Secret Life of a Weight Obsessed Woman, by Iris Pastor, I felt I had found a kindred spirit. She is a woman who has faced body image challenges in a positive way and, over time, has learned to deal with what she calls “the ravenous monster within.”

While I have never personally suffered from an eating disorder, I wanted to share this book with our community. If you are having trouble with your eating habits, I hope that it will give you something to think about.

Breaking up with a Lover Called ED

Iris Pastor’s book is about a woman who took control of her eating disorder.

It describes how she managed to break up with the lover called “ED” (Eating Disorder). Most importantly, she explains how she shared her “shameful” secret with family, friends and co-workers.

Iris describes how ED also fueled her lack of confidence and assertiveness in other areas of her life. She shares how, during her recovery period, she learned to be as kind to herself as she was to others.

Finally, she realized how her family and friends loved her not because she was perfect, but, despite her imperfections.

Her recovery took 46 years.

In her book, Iris talks about what it feels like to hide a shameful secret. She explains what it is like to know your outside is out of sync with your inside and that you are living a lie and presenting a fraudulent front to the world.

She talks about facing her addiction and re-learning healthy habits. She also shares the effect her eating addiction had on her first marriage and how it almost destroyed her second.

Who is This Book For?

In my view, Iris’ book is essential reading for anyone who is struggling with an eating disorder. It would also help someone to understand what a friend or family member with an eating disorder is going through.

This book is also not just for older women. If could also help any younger person who is struggling with self-image and body issues.

In other words, The Secret Life of a Weight-Obsessed Woman is for women who want to change their destructive eating habits but don’t know how to get started.

Has anyone that you know suffered from an eating disorder? What advice would you give to the women in our community who are struggling with just such a challenge? Let’s have a chat and support each other!

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