Do you know an older couple whose relationship still has the romantic spark it did when they were younger? They hold hands, cuddle and coo and even kiss each other passionately in public.

Then there are those over the age of 60 whose coupling has evolved into a more platonic relationship. They still like each other, but may sleep in separate bedrooms or even live apart.

It’s easy to be jealous of the gray-haired lovebirds but is a platonic relationship really a bad thing?

 
 

The dictionary defines the word platonic as a relationship marked by the absence of romance or sex. There are various reasons that a once fiery romance gets squelched. Contributing factors may include a physical condition caused by disease, erectile dysfunction or simply a consensual lack of desire.

As we age, our bodies change both physically and emotionally. After menopause, many women lose their desire for sex but, in some cases, it’s the male who has the issue. Even though the romantic part of the relationship has faded, a platonic relationship or cohabitation can be beneficial to both parties.

Platonic Relationships May Reduce Financial Stress

If you don’t have a sufficient nest egg or a steady stream of retirement income and your partner can provide financial help, being in a relationship relieves a tremendous amount of stress. Your relationship becomes one of convenience. Stress kills Baby Boomers and seniors every day.

Financial stress is particularly frustrating because it’s harder to find a job as you get older. When the financial burden is lifted, even temporarily, it gives you time to save up for the future or start your own business.

You Feel Safer

When you’re living alone anything can happen, especially after 60. You could trip, faint or even have a heart attack. It’s safer to have someone around in case of an emergency or to simply help you change a lightbulb.

You Have a Companion for Outings

Going to events, eating at restaurants or traveling is often awkward when you’re alone. That’s not to say there’s anything bad about going solo. I love being on my own and enjoy having space to myself. But in certain situations, going solo may not be as enjoyable and it’s always nice to be able to share your experiences with someone else.

No Dealing with Dating Sites

For some women, dating is exciting, but for others it’s petrifying. Leaving a comfortable platonic relationship for a romantic one is a crap shoot. You don’t know how it’s going to turn out and it may not work. It all depends on how important the idea of romance is as opposed to being in a relationship that offers friendship and security.

On the other hand, a platonic relationship can be based on the understanding that you have the freedom to seek out a more fulfilling relationship if it happens to come along. This may seem flippant to a traditionalist, but as someone whose husband died at the age of 49, anything can happen in life and you must be prepared to adapt, especially if you’re a woman.

Potential Drawbacks of a Platonic Relationship

Everyone deserves to have love and affection. A platonic relationship may feel like a cop-out because it hinders you from experiencing deep and passionate love. Concerned relatives and friends may feel you deserve more and give you push-back. They’ll ask why you’re selling yourself short. It’s something to ponder.

Is a romantic relationship important to you, or is a friendly platonic relationship all you need? What benefits and drawbacks would you add to the list? Please join the conversation.

Rebecca OlkowskiRebecca Olkowski is a blogger, podcaster, and professional voice actor. She loves to travel, eat well, and find the joy in life. Rebecca is the founder of BabyBoomster.com. Her passion is to inspire fabulous women over 50 to enjoy vibrant, active good health, and to get out and experience what the world has to offer, even if it’s in their own backyard.

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