Most of us arrive at our 60th birthday with our fair share of emotional battle scars and relationship bruises. Many of us have been through a divorce. Some of us have lost a loved one. Almost all of us have experienced betrayal, broken trust and dishonesty more times than we care to remember.
People are wonderfully, frustratingly, mysteriously complex. Over millions of years, we have evolved to do pretty much anything to survive – and, one of our stranger powers is the power of deceit.
There is something about human nature that makes us want to look for simple solutions to complex problems. Feeling out of shape? Join a gym. Not satisfied with your job? Quit and find a new one. Feeling a bit lonely? Just get out there and meet new people.
All of these solutions sound great, but, they are, at best, only partial solutions to our problems.
“Grandma, you’re weird.” That was my granddaughter’s assessment as I stepped off the train in Edinburgh a few weeks ago and planted a kiss on her cheek. As is always the case when spending time with a 5-year old, the next few days were filled with near misses, endless “whys” and unexpected tears – both the good kind the and the bad kind.
Have you recently experienced a loss or failed at something that was important to you? Many women have been through a divorce, lost a job, been betrayed, or made a bad financial decision. Almost all of us have failed to achieve goals that we set for ourselves. This is a part of life, but, it doesn’t make the pain any easier to manage.
It’s your choice how you present yourself to the world. The way you show up is the way the world sees you – and this becomes the way you see yourself. This perception has everything to do with what you will create today and for the future.
When you think about the term “reinventing yourself,” you probably imagine people who made big changes in their lives. You may know people who quit their jobs to start their own businesses. Or, perhaps you remember news stories about sky-diving 90-year-olds or weight-lifters in their 70s.
Managing the Sixty and Me community can be a bit of an emotional roller-coaster. As I talk to all of you about what you are doing in retirement, I am uplifted by your stories of renewal and resilience. I am humbled by your dedication to your family and the world around you. And, at times, I am deeply saddened by the struggles that many of you face in your lives.
By the time we reach our 60s, we all have our share of battle scars. Some women have gone through a divorce. Others have children who have grown up and moved to another city, or even country. A significant number have lost a spouse or gone through a serious illness. So, perhaps it’s no surprise that many of us see life after 60 as a time for personal reflection, renewal or even reinvention.