One of the main problems with concepts like finding happiness is that they are hard to define. For most of human history, self-help gurus, writers and religious leaders owned these topics. Science was limited in its ability to enter the happiness discussion because it couldn’t look inside the human brain. Well, now, all that is changing.
If I asked you when you were happiest in your life, what would you say? Would you say that you were happiest in your 20s, when you were starting your career or finishing university? Or, were you happiest in your 30s, when you were building your career and raising your children? Or, are you perhaps happiest now?
After our 60th birthday, we want to do everything we can to keep healthy, active and strong. Many of us are also wondering how to stay happy and positive as we get a little older. After all, with at least 20 years more ahead of us, the investments that we make now will make all the difference in the future.
When you are feeling lonely or anxious, it’s easy to get caught up in the jumble of emotions. What you really want is a trusted friend to listen to – someone who can help you to see the situation rationally and who can offer perspective.
Have you every had to tell yourself to stop being so hard on yourself? If you’re like most people, the words that form in your head are probably automatic. Most of the time, there is nothing wrong with this. After all, it would be exhausting to analyze everything that we said to ourselves. At the same time, if you are feeling stressed or anxious, it is possible that your own negative self-talk is part of the problem.
If you want to be more positive, you should watch what you watch. That’s the simple the conclusion that I came to after spending 100s of hours researching happiness.
When it comes to life after 60, happiness and positivity are often hard to find. It’s easy to look to external sources of our problems. We might blame someone else for our financial difficulties. Or, we may curse our “bad luck” for having to deal with an illness, divorce or other challenging situation.
Recently, we’ve seen a number of claims on popular websites that “happy foods,” such as chocolate and coffee, can improve your mood. On the surface, these claims seem to good to be true. After all, who wouldn’t like to believe that having a Kit Kat with your morning coffee is the path to positivity and happiness? So, we decided to see what science has to say on this subject.
Happiness and positivity are essential to every aspect of getting the most from life after 60. This is why we are always searching for ways to be happier. When we feel happy, we are more likely to get out and engage with the world – and the more we do, the happier we become. Do you agree?
Do you ever feel like most of the people around you are much more “together” than you are? Do you often find yourself comparing yourself to others, even when you know it’s counterproductive? I know I do!
Sitting in a coffee shop, watching the people smiling and talking with their friends, it’s easy to think that we are the only ones that have problems.