Life after 60 is a time of transitions. Our kids have left the home. After decades climbing the corporate ladder, many of us are finding our careers grinding to a halt. Silver divorces are on the rise as many baby boomers re-evaluate their relationships.
Can helping others really make you happier?
Let’s explore this concept together. Like so many things in life, happiness is a matter of perspective. When you are feeling anxious, or even a little depressed, it’s easy to get caught up in your own emotions. The more you think about your situation, the darker your thoughts tend to get, until moving forward seems impossible.
“I’ve noticed the more reactive I feel, the more miserable I am. Social media is just jet fuel for reactivity.” – Tim Ferriss (author of The 4-Hour Workweek and Tools of Titans)
One common thread that I have seen as I talk with the women in our Sixty and Me communitiy is that life after 60 is a time of personal reflection. This doesn’t mean that baby boomers are ready to “age gracefully.” Far from it! It simply means that life after 60 is filled with questions, some philosophical and some practical:
One of the stereotypes about aging is that people tend to get more conservative and unfriendly in their later years.
We’ve all seen movies where old people sit on their porches, complaining that “kids today just don’t get it.” Usually, these aren’t the kind of folks that you would like to invite over to your place for a beer.
One of the best things about being over 60 is that you finally have some perspective on how the world really works.
When it comes to relationships, love, money and health, you have decades of experience to draw on. For the most part, this is a great thing. After all, as George Santayana said, “Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.”
I recently wrote an article on the secret of being fearless in your 60s. It covered the things that older women worry about.
In the comments, women shared their fears about not having enough time left, not having enough money, not being beautiful enough, not having enough talent, not feeling good enough – just not BEING enough.
I’m on a happiness kick as 2017 begins. As intuitive and intelligent people, you know that happiness is a choice. And you undoubtedly get up every day and make a choice to be happy throughout your day.
But some days you just can’t turn on that happiness light. The button is stuck in the off mode.
In this holiday season, many people find themselves happier than usual, but some do not.
Their expectations are not met because the past seems better than the present. It’s good to be reminded how to get back on track, how to get happier.
Harry Hoover’s little book, GET GLAD, is indeed a “practical guide to a happier life.”