Has 2017 been challenging for you? Getting older is not for sissies. Some of us face substantial family or financial problems. Sometimes the days can seem grim.
A few years ago, an older, well-dressed woman walked into my therapy office. She seemed agitated. Nervously, she told me that she was unable to eat or sleep because she was troubled by sexual fantasies about her best friend’s husband.
It’s that time of the year when many of us are making lists. Sometimes, we’re enumerating things to do, while other lists may include loftier goals for the coming year or names of people or events we appreciate.
Oh, how we wish for things to be different: Our bodies strong and healthy and, preferably, slim. Our children stable and successful; our grandchildren happy and thriving. Loved ones alive and healthy. Our marriages deeply loving, or else wishing for that elusive man to complete us. Plenty of money in savings.
According to Wikipedia, “Space is the boundless three-dimensional extent in which objects and events have relative position and direction.”
That is fine in its own way, but I want to explore the space beyond objects and events, deep into our personal spaces, in our heads, between each of us, in our lives.
Do you ever feel fine during the day, but as the shadows start to lengthen and tiredness creeps in, you notice your spirits flagging? And that evening you were looking forward to seems more like a mini-endurance test to cope with before you can go off to bed?
“It takes but one positive thought when given a chance to survive and thrive to overpower an entire army of negative thoughts.” – Robert H. Schuller, Televangelist
When we reach our 60s, several things happen:
Kristi Nelson is the executive director of a Network for Grateful Living. I was particularly interested in the topic of gratitude because – of all the traits I observe in older adults living a quality life – that one consistently rises to the top.