Alone – without others present
Lonely – solitary, companionless, isolated
Lonesome – feeling lonely or forlorn
Why do so many women feel alone, lonely and lonesome? Could it possibly have something to do with choice? Is there a simple explanation that could turn these sad, often heartbreaking feelings around? Could we reverse being lonely and lonesome without involving other people, professionals, friends or family? Is it possible? Is it a choice?
Are you in your 60s and single? Whether you find yourself solo by choice or by chance, embrace your independence! You’re certainly not alone.
I hope you noticed that I didn’t title this article, “How to Survive the Holidays, Alone.”
No! This is about making sure to celebrate the holidays if you are alone.
Living solo is more common than most of us want to admit.
Over 25 percent of people over the age of 65 live alone in the United States and the statistic grows throughout the world. And in some U.S cities, the numbers swell to over 40 percent.
Isolation sneaks up on ya! Has it snuck up on you too?
I had been building my business as an “Influencer” for over 35 years and this year decided to do something differently. However, disconnecting from that business network for a different focus caught me with a sideline surprise.
The holidays are coming. The falling snow, ringing of sleigh bells, and smells of turkey and pumpkin pie can conjure memories of family and togetherness.
At over sixty, we have learned to be optimists. Look on the bright side. Whistle a happy tune. Be very grateful for the good in our lives. When we feel down, we distract ourselves.
“But you will cease to feel isolated when you recognize, for example, that you do not have a sensation of the sky: you are that sensation. For all purposes of feeling, your sensation of the sky is the sky, and there is no ‘you’ apart from what you sense, feel, and know.” – Alan Watts, The Wisdom of Insecurity
I’ve been single for well over a decade now. Like most older women who have gone through a divorce, I have a bit of a love / hate relationship with being single.
80% of the time, I am able to celebrate my independence. I genuinely appreciate having the freedom to pursue my passions without compromise. I even love getting up in the morning and being able to eat breakfast whenever I want and with whomever I want. Does any of this sound familiar?
Learning to live alone can be very empowering – and expensive.
As solo women, we often prefer to live alone, but we want to do so in an environment which also provides social connections, activities and the sense of community we crave. Community makes it easier to maintain our independence by allowing us to “live alone, together,” the core of the Entourage concept that I write about in my book Retiring Solo.