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How to Make Friends as an Adult

For most of our lives, our social relationships are accidental. Then, in our 60s, we find ourselves wondering how to make friends as an adult. This is not a trivial question. Having strong social ties is good for our health and happiness. Let’s explore this topic together.

Can You Ever Really Know Someone?
3 years ago

Can You Ever Really Know Someone?

My sister and I exchange emails at least once a week. Sometimes I’m shocked when I read her impressions of something I’ve said. It’s eye-opening and gives me a different lens through which to see myself. Read More

Hopscotch and the Art of Making Friends as an Older Adult
3 years ago

Hopscotch and the Art of Making Friends as an Older Adult

Hopscotch. We played the game every day after school. We played it on the sidewalks and in the playgrounds outside the eighteen-floor brick building that was our home in Brooklyn, New York. We played as a way to hang out with each other. We were friends. We were friends because we were the same age and lived a floor from each other.

How do we hang out with our friends as adults? Read More

How a Surprise Friendship Showed Me that Life After 60 Gives as Much as it Takes
3 years ago

How a Surprise Friendship Showed Me that Life After 60 Gives as Much as it Takes

By  •  Lifestyle

The older I get, the more clearly I see – through my new trifocals – that life really is a give and take proposition, often with equally unsatisfactory results. Read More

Hearing Loss Happens, but, Good Listening Skills Are a Choice
3 years ago

Hearing Loss Happens, but, Good Listening Skills Are a Choice

When was the last time you felt really listened to? Can you think of a time when somebody sat down with you and gave you their undivided, respectful attention? Do you know the feeling of being encouraged to go deeper, to tap into your own knowing in the presence of another? Read More

How Do Real Friends Respond to a Serious Illness? (7 Comforting Things to Say)
3 years ago

How Do Real Friends Respond to a Serious Illness? (7 Comforting Things to Say)

My friends are getting sick at an alarming rate. No doubt it goes with the aging process. We all get our share of aches and pains but some illnesses are a matter of life and death.

When your friend is diagnosed with a serious illness, what’s the best way to respond? Read More

Want to Find More Friends After 60? Start by Getting to Know Yourself!
3 years ago

Want to Find More Friends After 60? Start by Getting to Know Yourself!

Despite everything we know about the importance of maintaining social connections as we get older, finding friends after 60 can be a challenge. Read More

Do’s and Don’ts of Being a Caregiver’s Friend
3 years ago

Do’s and Don’ts of Being a Caregiver’s Friend

By  •  Lifestyle

When a friend mentions to you that they are now taking care of a loved one with special physical or cognitive needs, it’s easy to underestimate what this truly means. And it quite possibly marks the beginning of the end of your friendship, if you don’t tread properly. Read More

How to Help a Friend Who Experienced Sexual Abuse in Childhood
3 years ago

How to Help a Friend Who Experienced Sexual Abuse in Childhood

Have you ever found yourself listening to a friend’s disclosure that she was sexually abused as a child? How did you handle it? What’s the best way to receive such news?

Here are some of my ideas, based on my thirty years as a trauma therapist. During that time, I helped women who had been sexually abused in childhood. Read More

How to Find New Friends After 60
3 years ago

How to Find New Friends After 60

By  •  Lifestyle

I walked past a local restaurant on Park Street recently. Seated at one of the tables next to the window was a group of women. They were talking, laughing and enjoying themselves and their time together. It was the kind of group that you just wanted to pull up a chair, order a glass of wine and join in. Read More

How to Develop True Friendships in Retirement
3 years ago

How to Develop True Friendships in Retirement

­­I’ve moved to a new city and I don’t know anyone. Like many older women, I left my comfort zone to be near my family. When I say I didn’t know anyone in my new city, I mean I missed people with whom I shared history and a comfortable sense of belonging. Read More