Have you ever noticed how people tend to have very different experiences with aging? Why is it that some of us stay positive right to the very end, while others become grumpy, cynical and just plain mean?
Have you ever wondered how many choices you make every day?
As I listened to President Obama’s state of the union address, in January, I noticed that he used the word choice many times throughout his speech. I like that word – choice.
In the cave of the deep lies the spring of the heart. – Rumi
Nature shows us how the unseen comes forth to nourish the seen. All that we see, hear, or know, comes from the unknown and returns there after its form is completed. The limitless energy of the Universe gives life to what we perceive, mysteriously forming new experiences around us. These are the times that we know as our lives.
Curiosity and happiness are deeply connected. Older adults who are able to stay curious see life as a mystery to be explored. They bounce back from life’s everyday trials, knowing that every challenge is an opportunity to grow and learn. The sparkle in their eyes is a reflection of the happiness in their souls.
Women over 60 are wonderfully complex. Over 6 decades, our roles, and our perspectives, have shifted. In the 1950s, we were “good girls,” who knew our place.
There is a great song by Paul Simon, in which he says, “One man’s ceiling is another man’s floor.” He is commenting, of course, on how our experiences are colored by the frames we choose. In other words, our feelings are shaped by our mindset.
There are so many stereotypes about aging that hold us back. One of the worst is that life after 60 is all about slowing down. Rather than following our passions, it sometimes feels like society wants us to get out of the way. What a bunch of rubbish!
When I was a young woman, I had the privilege of working with Elizabeth Kubler Ross. Elizabeth was a deep and wonderful woman, who taught me so much. I could write about her for hours, but, today, I just want to focus on one thing that Elizabeth said that has changed my life. She said, “We always criticize the things in other people that we fear most in ourselves.”
There is a special kind of beauty that only older women have. It is not the beauty of youth, with its flawless skin, shining hair and toned muscles. It is the silent beauty of wisdom and confidence. It is the genuine smile of a life well-lived and a future secured. It is the story told by our wrinkles and the depth in our eyes.