Life after 60 is complicated. Over the decades, we have experienced a full spectrum of emotions. We have loved and lost. We have passed milestones and celebrated accomplishments. But, no matter how full our lives have been, we are filled with questions.
Did I make the right decisions with my life? Did I do enough? Did I choose the right balance between my career and my family? Was I a good parent and spouse? Do you have any of these thoughts?
What is the meaning of life? Like a shadow, this question follows us through our lives, even if we never turn around to see it. We all want to feel like our lives count for something. We want to know that all this was not just a cosmic accident.
As women who have lived for over five decades, we already know that central to most problems in the human condition is the idea that you create expectations for many situations in life. It’s an emotional sink hole, highly difficult to maintain.
At the risk of sounding weird and creepy, I’d like to share something with you: I love my local cemetery. It’s a place of mystery, magic and history. I go there several times a week and think it more special with each visit.
Are you doing what you love and have a purpose that propels you to get up in the morning and pursue it? It’s believed that having a reason for being will extend your longevity and help you stay healthy. The Japanese call it “ikigai” (ick-ee-guy).
Late one night, after a recent college reunion, I got to talking with a group of close friends. We’d had a few drinks. And having split our sides laughing over the course of two days about our shared pasts, we began to muse about our individual futures.
As an older woman, you have years of experience and wisdom. It would be wise to assume that you’d ooze self-confidence.
However, that isn’t always the case, especially in a world that is focused on youthful appearances. We say, “Screw that!”
We live in a busy world. Its surrounds us with many options, decisions and choices.
On some level, we all know that movement is essential to getting the most from life at any age. In fact, you could even say that movement IS life. When we let ourselves “take it easy,” instead of growing, learning and pushing ourselves, our bodies and minds start to fade. In other words, we start to die.
In my book, Which Old Woman Will You Be?, I encourage living on purpose and being intentional so that as we age, we are the women we choose to be. The women we want to be. The women we intentionally become, instead of the ones we sort of drift into without thought or effort.