Have you ever thought about living with roommates? If so, you are in step with a growing cadre of baby boomers who are turning to shared living as a fun, affordable housing option as they age.
A Golden Girls Home is where mature adults share a home. Maybe it’s two women sharing an apartment; maybe it’s four men and women sharing a house.
Every time I go into the city, I crave a penthouse apartment on the 31st floor of some tall skyscraper, so that I can look out over the city lights. I would find a deli open in the middle of the night and go to the theatre every day of the week.
Reaching retirement age creates cacophony of conflicting emotions. On the one hand, we feel a sense of relief that, after decades of hard work, we will finally be able to pursue our passions. On the other hand, with all of our social relationships changing, it’s easy to feel lost, or even fearful about the future.
Life after 60 isn’t perfect. In addition to the everyday concerns that exist in your younger years, you also have to deal with a weakening body, living on a pension and changing social roles. With all this going on, it’s easy to be discouraged. I even know women who are quite bitter about their life after 60. They look at their life and ask themselves “This is it? How, after 40 years in the workforce did it come to this?”
Retirement isn’t what it used to be. Not so long ago, the only acceptable things to do in retirement were knitting, playing golf, looking after the grandkids and, generally, “aging gracefully.” Now, out of necessity or choice, more people than ever are working well into their 60s and beyond. Even if you can afford to stop working, you are probably more interested in pursuing your passions than following someone else’s idea of the perfect retirement.
Cher and I have one thing in common. Along with other rock groups like “The Who,” Cher and I have had several final farewell, retirement tours. I’m on my latest, and maybe not last retirement tour. Just like Cher. We’ve still got mileage.
Over the last few years, more and more women have chosen to live in communities. In theory, this living situation is similar to the communes that many women were at least aware of in their 20s. In those days, women chose to live together for philosophical reasons. For example, many women found that this living session provided an outlet for their bohemian style and desire for experimentation.
When you see a “strong woman” portrayed in a movie or on TV, she is almost always pushy, opinionated and self-centered. There is an implicit assumption that in order for a woman to be “strong,” she needs to be aggressive and brash.
Retirement homes are not what they used to be. In fact, people over 55 now have more options than ever before. This means you don’t have to decide between moving in with your kids and living in a nursing home. And just because you’re getting a little older doesn’t mean you have to give up your active lifestyle, either.
But how do you decide whether active adult communities or retirement homes are the better choice for you?