I’ve met a lot of discouraged mid-life ladies, women who worry that, when it comes to dating after 60, all men want is someone young and hot. And yes, most men would like to find a younger woman; and they put a premium on aspects of beauty that are tough to maintain as we age. I could tell you they don’t, but I’d be lying, undercutting my own credibility, and going against data collected all over the world.
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Many older single women spend a lot of time looking for an attractive, kind, older, single man. While it’s true that some of us find the man of our dreams after 60, the majority of women that I have spoken to are deeply skeptical of this approach.
Women in their 60s have enjoyed wonderful relationships and experienced their share of disappointments too. Some of us got married right out of high-school. Others waited until their 20s or 30s to tie the knot. Still others of us decided to stay single and chart our own course.
Regardless of the paths that we took, most of us quickly came to understand men. We may not have always liked what we saw, but, unlike men, who constantly ask “what do women want,” we knew what to expect from the opposite sex.
There is a powerful quote by Maya Angelou that says “To those who have given up on love, I say trust life a little bit.” In the past, when I have shared this quote with the women in our community, I have been met with sad, almost cynical responses.
I love trains. There’s something about zipping through the country side that makes me feel like I’m in an adventure novel. Perhaps it’s the hustle and bustle that I find appealing. Or, maybe it’s just the idea of “going on an adventure” that takes me back to being a little girl, my head full of dreams.
Living in Switzerland, I’m fortunate to have the opportunity to take the train to Paris from time to time. No matter how many times I go, I always learn something new. This trip was no exception!
Finding love after 60 is a major topic of discussion and curiosity for women in the Sixty and Me community – and with good reason. Many women over 60 are embarking on a new stage of life with different relationship statuses than were common in our parents’ era. Some women are recently divorced. Others became widows or simply chose to never to marry in the first place.
This leaves many women wondering whether it is worth re-entering the dating world and looking for the best way to go about finding love after 60.
Coffee shops must be making a fortune from the trend in online dating that almost invariably leads to the first date suggestion of “let’s just get a coffee.”
Bette Davis once said that getting old is not for sissies. Well, many women would argue that the same comment applies to dating after 60. Not only are there statistically fewer men, but the dynamic of human engagement, and style of personal connection, has changed dramatically since we were dating in our 20’s. Also, a lifetime of love and loss has made many women distrustful and unwilling to get back into the dating game.
My guest on this latest episode of the Sixty and Me Show is Lisa Copeland, a dynamic writer, blogger and successful over 50 dating coach. She focuses specifically on working with women over 50, who, she feels, often approach dating with misconceptions and unrealistic goals.