Turning 60 is an Opportunity to Embrace Risk and Expand Your Boundaries (Video)
Women in their 60s are a bold and fearless group. After all, you don’t get to be 60-years-old without having experienced your share of bumps. Sometimes, as the song goes, whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
Unfortunately, just as often, our disappointments and knocks cause us to limit our expectations for ourselves. We know our soft-spots and throw up walls to prevent ourselves from getting hurt. We avoid emotionally risky situations like the plague.
Are Your Fears Holding You Back?
As a child, it’s easy to skip through life without thinking about the consequences of your decisions. The older you get, the more you understand that the world can be a cold and dangerous place. Unfortunately, while out protective behaviors may help us to avoid danger, they also prevent us from reaching out potential.
My recent guest on the Sixty and Me Show, Mary Eileen Williams, says that turning 60 is actually an opportunity to embrace with, expand your boundaries and build the life that you deserve. As an author and the founder of “Feisty Side of Fifty,” Eileen has seen first-hand how changing your perspective in your 60s can have a major impact on your life.
I hope that you enjoy this interview with Mary Eileen Williams and that our discussion helps you to embrace change and build the life that you deserve.
Life After 60 Should Be an Adventure
In our interview, Eileen and I discuss how change has been a constant for women through every stage of our lives. Now, in our 60s, this turbulence has reached a boiling-point and many of us are saying “enough!” We are willing to trade a lot of boredom for a little bit of safety.
Next, Eileen and I talk about the value of exploring and even embracing change. Doing so allows us to see life as an adventure. She encourages us to take control by seeking out a little chaos.
Eileen explains that the first step is to identify the habits and behaviors that you want to change. The, you should take baby-steps to create the behaviors that will eventually become habits.
For example, you may want to try the following exercise. Look in the mirror and say “I am…” in combination with positive power words. For example, say, “I am strong,” and “I am successful.” Pay attention to your body language. Are you smiling? What is your posture like?
Now try combining “I am…” with negative words, like “weak,” “busy,” or “poor.” Does your body position or posture change? Do you feel different? This exercise shows that the words that we use and the frames that we choose have a bit impact on how we feel about ourselves.
How to Stop Negative Self-Talk
Finally, Eileen gives some great advice for stopping negative self-talk. She recommends that we start with our ultimate goal and move backwards. This allows us to stay focused on our objective, without worrying about the small obstacles that we encounter on a daily basis.
What have you done recently that scared you? What do you wish you had the courage to do? What is stopping you? Please join the conversation.