Having children is overrated. People think that you raise your kids until they’re 18 and then it’s over. No, it isn’t. It’s never over because your kids eventually become your parents.
Grief is a tricky thing. We understand the process during the death of a loved one but forget its role during divorce, especially if when ending a decades-long marriage.
No one knows better than I do just how difficult moving on after a divorce can be. In many ways, recovering from a divorce as an older woman is especially difficult.
I write often about grieving and the feelings one can experience when they are in the throes of it. One can never know what it’s like to be in the grip of pain after the loss of a spouse or a loved one unless they have experienced such a loss.
Life after divorce is filled with overwhelming emotions. Many women feel a combination of anger, fear, resentment and confusion. They may even feel shame or guilt, even when they don’t deserve to.
When divorce is mixed with other transitions in your life, like retirement or taking care of an ailing parent, it’s tempting to never want to leave the house.
When you are going through a divorce after 60, all you want to do is climb under a rock and wait for it all to pass.
What do you do if you want to write a tribute legacy letter to your parent, but he or she is not the perfect parent?
Over 30 years ago, I had the honor to work with Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. At the time, concepts like palliative care and hospice care weren’t well known. In fact, through her book, “On Death and Dying,” it was Elisabeth who started to bring the conversation about death and dying into the open.