Recently, I received a letter from a woman who told me nothing is working in her dating life. No one is interested in her. No one is interested in her friends either.

They, like her, are experiencing loneliness and a lack of contact with men.

She and Her Friends Over 50 Feel Invisible to Men

It doesn’t have to be this way at all. The problem is most women think finding a good guy is about having the right profile and picture.

Your profile and picture are important but getting a great guy starts within you and the mindset you have about men and yourself.

So What Does Shifting Your Mindset About Men and You Mean?

It’s so easy to get caught in the type of rut I described above. If your friends are having trouble getting dates, instead of looking at themselves… the finger gets turned around and pointed at the men out there and their behavior.


It’s not about the men we want to meet. It’s about how we feel about ourselves that makes the difference.


Yes men are attracted to your physical appearance. It’s how they’re wired from the caveman days of mating with women who could produce strong children that could survive the brutal elements.

What you may not know is that men are also attracted to your energy. We give off a vibe that men can feel from your profile picture, in emails the two of you exchange, on the phone or even when you meet.

When it comes to dating after 50, there are two types of vibrations you put out into the world. I mentioned the first already and that is how you feel about yourself. When you feel beautiful both inside and out, men can sense this and are attracted to you. By the way, your Inner Glow enhances your outer magnificence and makes you even more attractive to men.

To get that inner fire glowing, you’ll want to really look at what you love about you. Let’s start with your physical qualities. Sometimes it’s hard for us to love our various parts and pieces as we age.

In that case, you’ll want to shift your mindset to one of gratitude for what the body part can do. For example, a lot of women don’t love their arms but can have gratitude for them because they use their arms to hug the people they love.

Next, rediscover your passions. Think about the things you’re good at or the activities you’d love to try. I always wanted to paint so I took classes in both watercolor and acrylics. My friends would tell me my face lit up when I talked about the colors I had fun playing with. This lighting up is what men are so drawn to in you.

The second type of energy is the mindset we have when it comes to men. A lot of women think women reside in those masculine bodies they’re interested in. They don’t! Men think differently than women. And this can frustrate us to no end if we don’t speak the language men can hear or understand.

This Misunderstanding Can Lead Us to Male Bashing

If you’re talking negatively about men with your friends, I guarantee this downbeat energy shows up in your field and pushes men away.


If you come from a mindset that men are fun and really cool in their own way, your energy field gives off this vibe instead, which again draws men towards you.


Good men are interested in women our age. The secret is learning to love ourselves so we can allow the men we want to meet to love us too.

I love showing women around the world how to find love again with a good man after 50. It all starts with knowing where to find them. I’d like to invite you to get your copy of my FREE REPORT the “5 Little Known Secrets to Finding A Quality Man Over 50” at FindAQualityMan.com. You’ll discover lots of tips and advice specifically geared for finding a good man in your local area and online.

Have you tried dating after 50? What was your experience? Do you agree that women our age are often too hard on men? Why or why not? Please join the conversation.

Lisa CopelandLisa Copeland is known as the expert on over 50’s dating. She’s the Amazon Best-Selling Author of The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50 and a regular Huffington Post contributor. Her passion is showing women around the world how to find love again with a good man after 50. Learn the 5 Little Known Secrets to Finding A Quality Man Over 50 at FindAQualityMan.com.

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