Divorce After 60

Conflicted feelings and emotions are at an all-time high after the transition through divorce. Sometimes it’s terribly challenging to control and channel reactions to people or situations in a positive, constructive way; and as a result…

Does this ever happen to you? There you are, going along with your day, minding your own business and it hits you. The whiny, super-annoying feeling that tells you that no matter what you did during your marriage, it just wasn’t good enough…

After my 60-year-old husband walked out to make babies, I announced to my best friend that I was writing a memoir. “For revenge?” she asked. “NO!” I paused. “Well, maybe a little,” I admitted, though I knew revenge was not what I needed. After all, I’m a therapist, and choosing revenge is not a wise coping mechanism…

Getting through a divorce can be extremely difficult at best, even when both parties are doing their best to cooperate. In cases where there is high conflict, divorce can turn from challenging to disaster quickly, as one or both parties…

Who would have thought lawyers would find an untapped market in silver splitters? If you’re wondering what that means, it’s another phrase for gray divorce – a term coined by Dr. Susan L. Brown and Dr. I-Fen Lin in 2012 to describe marriages that end after the age of 50…

There is a five-phase cycle to divorce recovery of feelings and emotions that you may experience after your transition through divorce. It’s called the Road Through Recovery. Some women feel “stuck” or “in pain” in one of the phases…

When I was faced with the difficulty of creating a new, purposeful life after divorce, I tried different options, struggling to find one that would achieve my goals. As an older woman, I faced specific challenges not experienced by my younger counterparts…

After five years in limbo, my divorce became final just a week ago. In this long process, I learned that endings unfold slowly, inviting us to move with their rhythm instead of rushing ahead. The final judgment brought both sadness and relief, loss and liberation. True healing means letting…

The reason we struggle with trust after a divorce is because we feel like we’ve been betrayed. It’s a crappy weight to have on your shoulders. Similar to its other invasive cousins – anger, guilt, and resentment – losing trust after your long-term…

Unfortunately, men and women rarely ask themselves two essential questions as they begin the divorce process or while negotiating the final settlement: Will the settlement allow me and my family to be financially secure now and in the future?