My father died in 1969 at 49 years old. Mom was a couple of years younger. She chose not to remarry. This left her in a bind. She liked to dance. In fact, she went dancing three nights a week into her 80s. Mom needed a dance partner. And boy there were a litany of courters.
Exploring our sexuality after 60 is not a joke. Society may laugh at the idea of people over 60 being sexual, but we are. We may not be the same as we were when we were younger, but we still have emotions and desires. After all, we are human.
I recently went with my wife to visit her mom who is in a memory care unit. It was late in the day, and they were getting the residents ready for dinner. Most are fairly mobile, some can easily manage on their own, while others have walkers and a few need to be transported in wheel chairs.
I don’t know who first said that the brain is the most important sex organ, but, whoever they were, they were correct! In our 20s and 30s, it is easy to think of sex as an entirely physical process. Unfortunately, this focus on our external appearance can lead to poor relationship choices, low self-esteem and a lot of confusion.
I am not a sexologist. I am a “normal” sixty-year-old woman who wants to ponder in public. By the way, I hate the word “normal” – it doesn’t mean anything. I don’t think I’m a particularly revolutionary thinker. I’m only stating the obvious in my thoughts below. But I’ll let you decide!
Is sex after 50 normal? Sex and the City star, Kim Cattrall thinks so!
If Hollywood is to be believed, the only people having sex in this world are perfectly sculpted 20-somethings with radiant skin on the outside and an animal passion on the inside. The idea that people in their 50s and 60s enjoy sex is almost as forgotten on screen as it is in real life.
One of the biggest aging stereotypes is that sex after 60 doesn’t matter. What nonsense! Do our bodies change as we get a little older? Of course! Do our attitudes towards sex shift as we move through the phases of our life? In many cases, yes, they do. But, just because our attitudes change doesn’t mean that we become non-sexual beings in our 50s or 60s.