Do you believe in love after 60? Or have you given up on men? Join us in conversation with dating coach Lisa Copeland who shares 5 reasons why you shouldn’t give up on male companionship. Enjoy the show!

 

Margaret Manning:

My guest today is Lisa Copeland. Lisa is a dating coach who works exclusively with women over 50. She is here today to share some amazing tips that help women find quality men in their lives. Welcome to the show, Lisa.

Lisa Copeland:

Hi, Margaret! It’s so nice to be here.

Margaret:

I love having you on the show. It’s a real joy because you are such a positive person, and you really do have a great attitude toward dating after 60.

Lisa:

Thank you. I know you can find love when you’re in your 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s… It’s doable.

Margaret:

As you know, many women in our community are over 60, and they have had a lot of ups and downs in their love life. Divorces, broken hearts, disappointments. I guess I’d like you to tell us, from your own experience, what are some reasons that women should not give up on dating after 50?

Lisa:

Well, there’s nothing like male companionship. We love our girlfriends, but the feeling of being around a man is unique. Men, if you allow them to, can make you feel safe, protected and provided for. And we like that.

I have so many female alpha clients who tell me, “I’m so tired of doing it all alone.” That is one reason why it’s so wonderful to have male energy around.

Margaret:

I think that’s really important with women having to be strong in the workplace, fighting for our rights, for fairness and safety. It’s really hard to switch gears sometimes, to be soft and know that it’s okay.

Lisa:

And it’s nice. It’s very hard for us to be soft, by the way, because we’ve made ourselves feel safe for so long, and to allow someone else to make us feel safe is difficult for us to do.

Margaret:

Very true. I agree that male energy is great. I love being close to my male friends. I love having coffee with them, chatting, getting to know them because the energy is totally different. What are some other reasons why we shouldn’t give up on pursuing love?

Lisa:

Another reason is, men don’t have to come in your life in a one-package-fits-all deal. When we were young, we got married to have children and to build a world together.

Today, you get to have men as friends, or as friends with benefits – if you want. You can have a lover, or a guy who lives with you. You could even have a committed relationship and not live together. You can be married, too, but you have so many options.

Margaret:

Yeah, I think that’s so true. There was a movie with Jane Fonda and Robert Redford called Our Souls at Night. The idea there is that you can have different kinds of relationships with men, as long as you’re open for the experience. So, it sounds like a great movie.

Lisa:

It was good. There’s actually a series called Grace and Frankie where Fonda plays with Lily Tomlin. The show explores the different ways men fit in your life, and it shows that love is possible at any age. You don’t have to look like Jane Fonda for love to happen.

It’s very much a matter of being open to different types of men and not thinking that a man has to look hot for you to go out with him. That comes from a making-babies mindset versus a companionship mindset.

Companionship is another great reason to have men in your life after 60. When I wasn’t dating, I would look around when I went out. Sure, there were lots of women that spent Saturday night by themselves, but I also saw the couples. It’s nice to be with someone on a Saturday night date. It’s just nice.

Then there are vacations. Vacations are a great reason to have a man in your life. We oftentimes can’t coordinate a holiday with our girlfriends, and a guy – even just a friend – could be a great travel companion.

Margaret:

It’s less expensive too, especially when you want to go on a cruise. If you’re cruising alone, you have to pay a single supplement fee. But if you have a guy to go with you, friend or more, each of you will pay only half of the fare. It’s cheaper and you have enjoyable company.

Lisa:

Right. It’s more fun than doing it alone. Although, cruises have gotten better about accommodating singles. I think Norwegian has a lot of singles programs within their cruises. Actually, we were on a cruise in December, and I saw so many single men traveling alone.

Margaret:

Really? That’s interesting. So, in terms of our conversation so far, reasons to have men in our life are companionship, great male energy, a variety of relationships. What else have we got? I guess it’s also fun.

Lisa:

We all love our grandkids and our kids but there is more to life. A lot of women say, “I have a really good life,” and they do. Women are much better at creating good lives for themselves than men are. But almost all of them will also say, “But I feel something is missing.”

What they’re missing is male companionship. A friend of mine lost his wife and I called to give him my condolences.

As we were talking, he started telling me about his 90-year-old mother who lost her husband in her 60s, and has had relationships in her 60s, 70s, 80s, and now her 90s, with different men. Sadly, though, men tend to live less than women.

The point is, you have to go out and be proactive about it. You have to be open to it. I know it’s hard, especially when you need to find out who you want to be with.

Margaret:

I think another good reason to get back into dating in your 60s is that life is short. The lady in her 90s surely discovered it.

She took advantage of every decade of her life and found love, even if it wasn’t the intense passionate kind we had when we were younger. We still need deep communication. We need someone to care about us.

Lisa:

Yeah, it’s nice to know that at the end of the day, you can say good night to someone. Whether it’s on the phone, or whether you’re living with them, you have someone that knows you’re around.

It is doable, and it is possible. It’s a dimension of your life for having fun. Life is to be enjoyed, so you may as well add a guy and have some fun.

Margaret:

I think you’ve given us some really good reasons to not rule guys out. Love doesn’t have to expire in your 60s. You can still carry on.

Lisa:

For sure.

Margaret:

I know you have a lot of valuable information that you offer to women who might want to get out, reach out and just dip their toes in the dating world. What is that?

Lisa:

If you go to my website, you will be able to sign up for a free report called 5 Little Known Secrets to Finding a Quality Man. If you scroll to the bottom, I have a five- or seven-day challenge open at any given time.

It’s either a man challenge, or it’s a challenge about dating. Both of them give you a lot of things to think about. They feature two- or three-minute videos that really give you a chance to think about “How do I want to start bringing men into my life again?” and “How do I do it?”

Margaret:

Yeah, thank you so much for giving hope to women who want to be around men again. Thanks for being here, Lisa. We really appreciate it.

Lisa:

Thank you, Margaret.

Margaret:

My pleasure. See you later.

Have you resigned from looking to find male companionship in your 60s? What if you could find it again? Would you give it a try? Please join the conversation below and share some of your stories.

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