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Embrace Your Unique Style of Dressing in the Late Stage of Life

By Gail Rubin July 23, 2023 Beauty

Mark Twain once said, “Clothes make the man. Naked people have little or no influence on society.” My wardrobe has led me to happiness and achievement. However, my early attraction to dressing differently sometimes got me in trouble.

Don’t Try to Clique, Dress Unique

Your unique characteristics often emerge when you are a child. Early on, you may have been artistic, creative, and funny. To be a happy achiever as an adult, you need to embrace and celebrate your individual style. This includes how you dress.

However, to fit in and feel like we belong in a group, we often suppress our colorful “odd” aspects. Then somewhere down the road of life, we lose our way and wonder who we really are.

When I was in seventh grade, all of 12 years old, my wardrobe selections were a little off-the-wall. Sometimes, I’d dress in all white. This is amusing, as nowadays, anytime I wear white clothing, red sauce will invariably leap onto my chest.

My pride and joy in junior high school was a tooled leather purse from Mexico my grandmother had given to me. It featured intricate tooled patterns and a pair of birds.

Dressing differently and possessing a fancy purse made me a target for a group of tough girls who made fun of me. The harassment accelerated into bullying and a physical attack in the halls at school.

A school counseling session with the group of tough girls didn’t help. The counselor started the session by asking us, “If you could order any flavor ice cream at Baskin-Robbins, what would you choose?” Almost each of their answers included chocolate. Mine was Daquiri Ice. Rather than establish commonality, the exercise only highlighted my eccentricity.

My unusual wardrobe selections continued through college and into the workplace. On a few occasions, I was admonished to dress more professionally.

My Job Allows for Unique Style

I wanted to be able to dress with the natural flair I’ve felt since I was a child. And I finally found a way to do it. I became The Doyenne of Death®, a death educator who uses humor, funny film clips, and outside-the-box activities to help people address our 100% mortality rate and plan ahead.

Part of my brand is clothing: fancy cowboy boots and Western shirts embroidered with colorful skulls. The clothes make me stand out from the crowd and help start conversations about end-of-life issues. And all these clothes are a business expense!

It’s Never Too Late to Rediscover Your Style

As we age, if we’ve abandoned our unique characteristics, we may feel lost, frustrated, and insubstantial. When it comes to clothing, consider these tips to help hold on to your uniqueness:

  • Pick clothing and accessories that make you smile and feel good. Why wear anything that makes you feel bad?
  • Choose the right colors that complement your skin, hair, and eyes. Consider having a color consultant help you discover your best color pallet.
  • Be bold in your fashion sense. A unique style makes you stand out and get noticed.
  • If your job requires a uniform, express your uniqueness with accessories.
  • Create your own job so you can dress whatever way you want to!

When you embrace your uniqueness, you can change the world for the better. As the Smash Mouth song All Star goes, “Only shooting stars break the mold.”

Let’s Have a Conversation:

How do you prefer to dress these days? What is your unique style? Have you been able to preserve it over the years? Or have you just recently rediscovered it? Please share your style adventures with our community!

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Toni Stritzke

I just finished decorating a second hand vintage jean jacket. It has vintage lace appliqué on the back stitched on to a piece of shibori indigo dyed cotton. Vintage lace appliqué on the shoulders as well as pieces of braid. I made a Suffolk Puff flower out of pale blue silk and sewed it to the front of the collar.
It certainly looks unique.
I’ve always enjoyed wearing clothes as if I was my own easel.

Carol Eccles

I’ve started to change the way I dress now, I’m bored of the normal style that most of us wear in out sixties. I love the funky, quirky looks now. I’ve just bought a pair of baby pink Dr Martens boots and a pair of denim dungarees! I had a few pink highlights put in my hair too! Next thing is some funky glasses. I’m searching on the charity shops. You only live once!


If only I could find a pair of Doc Martens that fit me. You go, GF!

The Author

Gail Rubin, CT, is a pioneering death educator who helps organizations connect with baby boomers about end-of-life issues. Her advice, Always Embrace Your Uniqueness, is in the new book 1 Habit: 100 Habits from the World’s Happiest Achievers. Download a free planning form and Executor’s Checklist from her website,

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