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4 Ways to Reconnect with Your Husband and Save Your Marriage After 60

By Mary Black November 30, 2023 Family

Have you been married or with your partner for a while and want to bring the spark back before you get to the point of needing to save your marriage?

My husband and I have been together for 37 years and married for 33 of them – yikes! Time really does fly. It seems like 1986 was just a day ago, and we were two kids playing on the same team in a weekend broomball tournament.

Sparks flew back then, but like with any relationship, it’s had its ups and downs. Certainly, it hasn’t always been rainbows and sunshine. No, ma’am. But with every challenge, we’ve come out the other side with a deeper love and understanding for each other.

First, I must pre-disqualify myself as a relationship expert. I’m not a marriage therapist nor do I pretend everything is perfect in mine. Mark and my relationship is a work in progress, and I’m only sharing a few things that helped us re-connect recently.

My hope is to keep you from having to save your marriage, before it gets to the point of no return. Here we go, in no particular order:

Shut Down Electronics

We hear it all the time, “Shut down electronics to reconnect.” It is ironic how ‘connected’ we are to the world these days, yet how unconnected we are from human interaction.

Mark and I fall into this trap a lot, especially since we have our respective work engagements online. Regardless, talking without electronics in our hands or laps has been the most impactful ‘reconnection’ secret I can share. How do we do it?

Buy an Inflatable Hot Tub

We recently bought an inflatable hot tub to soak our sore muscles after our workouts. It works miracles after long work days of bouncing around in a haul truck for Mark as well.

While the hot tub has been awesome for our bodies, it’s been a huge contributor to reconnecting our relationship. We didn’t need to save our marriage, but it certainly has given it a boost!

For the 30 minutes or so we are in the hot tub, we can’t have electronics in the bubbling water, and as a result we are talking more. We’ve always done the “how’s your day been” small talk when one of us gets home, but we’ve found our conversation goes deeper and we talk about more stuff.

We’ve also found it’s a great way to vet out ideas related to work. The $300 we spent on our Intex inflatable hot tub is less than the cost of a session with a therapist if we had to try to save our marriage!

There’s also this thing about being in your birthday suit together for a while. It helps with another kind of connection, too.

Go on Dates

This is something Mark and I didn’t do for years. In our younger days, we thought going to a bar and getting drunk was a date. Ugh, I am so glad we outgrew that! While we still have a drink or two if we go out to dinner, we do more than just sit at the bar.

We lived in the bush for 10 years, and at that time going on a date was such a chore, we usually had movie night at home thanks to Netflix! Now that we live in a town with a theater, we’ve been catching a movie when possible and circumstances allow.

We’d like to do more, but with our work and workout schedules (see #3), and all the crazy stuff going on in the world around us, one night a month is pretty awesome. Mark hates spending tons of money going to the movies and loves to complain about the cost of concession food, so I’d like to teach you a ‘save a ton of money at the movies’ hack someone shared with me!

If you live in the United States and are an AT&T customer, there is this little perk you get called Movie Twos-days. Every Tuesday, if your town has a theater that participates, you get two tickets for the price of one!

We usually eat before the movies, and we share a medium popcorn and drink, so in the end, the cost of dinner, movie and concessions is about the same cost of the movie without dinner. And we practice #1… no electronics are allowed, except for the pre-movie selfie.

Find Something to Do Together

We have practiced doing things together our whole marriage. For the first 22 years we raced sled dogs, so we were certainly doing something together. From scooping dog poop to training and riding for thousands of miles on the trail together, we spent more time together than we wanted to sometimes!

There were times the stress and work of having 30-50 dogs in your front yard almost had us seeking help in saving our marriage. However, at the end of the day, because we had a common goal, we always came back together. There was always something to talk about at the dinner table, and we always felt connected.

Find something to do together. Go for nightly walks, volunteer at the local soup kitchen, etc. The possibilities are endless!

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What are some of your favorite ways to reconnect with your partner? Please share your ideas below!

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My husband and I didn’t have a shared hobby and have just started Dragon boating – great fun and exercise – highly recommend it, also a great way to meet new people!


My husband and I decided we would spend one day a week driving to a nearby reservoir (lake). There is a bench there so my original title was “A Year on a Bench” but it morphed into “A year at the lake” – bench didn’t have the best view. So far this has benefitted us in ways we didn’t think of. We watched the seasons change, explored to find the road that takes you to that house wayyy up there, met the most interesting people, Observed others around us, experienced a boat emergency & stayed until they were once again safely on their way, and we have found a couple of places perfect for sitting & casting for fish. I don’t what our next “A Year _____ will be but we are sure enjoying this time together. Just being in the car together and away from home has been the best benefit so far.

PS: ordering that inflatable hot tub! Wonderful in that it can be set up any place that is flat & sturdy. Placing on our new patio just wasn’t worth it. Good ‘ol word of mouth is the best recommendation. Thnx


Walking and talking together worked for me and my late wife. Now I walk alone.

We watch movies and go out to dinner together but lately I’ve been thinking it would be fun to play games together sometimes. And fun to play games with friends. We’d just have to find the right games!

The Author

Mary Black is a lifestyle entrepreneur, who loves her husband. She also adores her Aussie and Americanos who look just like the man of her heart – tall, dark and handsome. She is devoted to lifting women up through her books and blogs.

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