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7 Habits to Help You Live Long and Prosper Into Your 80s and 90s

Do you want to live to be 98? My mother lived that long. She enjoyed almost all but her last year. Do you think you’d still enjoy life into your 90s?

A couple of years ago I took a very brief MetLife Insurance Company online test, and based on that, I’ve got a 50% chance of reaching 93 and 25% chance to get to 98. Surprise! How about you?

Unfortunately, the MetLife calculator has been discontinued, but John Hancock have a similar one.

Interestingly, the test does not ask about health status directly, but it requests blood pressure, height, weight, gender, marital status, drinking, smoking, and exercise. Nothing about familial longevity. The test just gives estimates, averages. Its goal is to alert you to how much longer you will live, and how much longer retirement funds need to last.

Even the Average Woman in Her 60s Will Live a Couple of More Decades

If you don’t want to take that little test, you can note the numbers provided by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. Their tables indicate that white women 60 to 70 years old now can expect on average to live to 85. And you’re above average, no?

You are if you’ve been paying attention to your health, avoiding obesity, limiting alcohol consumption, exercising, and not smoking. These factors raised my own life expectancy from 86 for the average white male my age (73) into the 90s. Healthful practices could do the same for you.

Women tend to live longer than men. Race plays a role. Asian-Americans have longer life expectancies, African-Americans shorter. Family genetics also plays a role, as will your current health status.

Rather than its being “later than you think,” you probably will live longer than you expect. It’s time to consider these elements of a successful extended retirement. They are health, wealth, relationships, activities, and adjustments.

Protect Your Health

The elements of the life expectancy calculator give you a heads-up on what’s important for preserving your health. They are weight, blood pressure, exercise, alcohol, and smoking. Nothing you can do about your genes. Make sure to get medical check-ups regularly and heed the advice of medical professionals. In addition, make changes to your home and habits to reduce the likelihood of falls. Improve your nutrition. Walk more.

If you live in the U.S., you’ll probably be getting Medicare after 65. Some with low incomes will have Medicaid. You will likely add an insurance supplement. Note that “affordable” medical plans have significant deductibles. These are charges that you will pay before the insurance coverage kicks in, and there often are co-pays. Research this, get some professional advice or do both.

Don’t Run Out of Money

You’ll want to supplement your Social Security and other retirement funds. Part-time work might be suitable. Work can make your week more varied and interesting.

Investments usually include savings, home ownership, stocks, and bonds. I personally prefer Exchange-Traded Funds (ETFs), which are index funds that just move with market averages and have minimal management costs. Diversification is key, as is getting advice from someone knowledgeable but who does not have a conflict of interest. Don’t invest in anything you don’t understand.

Maintain and Enhance Personal Relationships

Tend to your friendships and family ties. Perhaps there are little disagreements or slights you can decide to ignore. Sometimes I meet with friends and family by driving to a restaurant midway between our homes. Even before Covid I started to make “virtual dates” with too-distant friends and family members, setting mutually convenient times to chat. I wish I’d started that sooner.

Relish Your Free Time

Your free time can be a blessing or a curse. With health and wealth, your options will be many. Without both, you’ll need to be more resourceful. Poor health can be very limiting, but not having much money needn’t be. Inexpensive activities include volunteering, local travel, and most hobbies.

Is It Time to Hit the Road?

Traveling often requires both health and wealth, especially the farther and longer the trips. You may want to find a partner to share these trips with.

Consider Downsizing

Freeing up some of your money and reducing your home-maintenance time by moving to smaller quarters can make good sense. Keep in mind whether you are likely to need extra room for visitors or aides.

Provide, Provide

The good news is that you may well live longer than you expect. You should heed the title of Robert Frost’s poem, “Provide, Provide.” Take steps now to enhance your health, wealth, and personal relationships to enjoy these after-60 decades.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What is your life expectancy now? How are you planning to have enough free time, money, and health to enjoy your after-60 decades? Please join the conversation.

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karin lesley bendel

Good advice. Moderation has always been my guide with exercise being the exception and I do a lot of that at 71. I walk about 5-6 miles a day, ballroom, line and tap dance, use weights and train my dogs. Reading books and enjoying Onedayuniversity online keeps my mind young. Eat well, minimize alcohol but I don’t abstain…there is social and relaxation benefits if done moderately. Life is good! BTW, I have chronic pain from a whiplash car accident and refuse to fill my body with medication. I have learned to ignore and keep on moving! My words of wisdom to add to the above great article.

Joy Royster

Excellent advice!!

Alainnah Robertson

Great article! Extremely good advice!


It’s important to realize these are just estimates. Anyone can, out of the blue, get a form of cancer that has nothing to do with your lifestyle and may not even be hereditary. You can get arthritis or develop eye issues. Heredity? I knew an 82-year-old woman who smoked 2 packs a day and didn’t exercise. Everyone in her family had died of heart disease. She was still going strong. Meanwhile a slim, healthy man in his early 70s suddenly developed a balance condition. He couldn’t walk his dog anymore. Doctors couldn’t find the problem. They handed him a cane. He lost all meaningful quality of life.

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Douglas Winslow Cooper, Ph.D. is a former Harvard science professor. He still publishes and helps others write and publish their books, via Douglas's life's central theme has been a half-century romance with his wife Tina Su Cooper, now quadriplegic due to multiple sclerosis, who receives 24/7 nursing care at home. Visit his website here

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