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Addressing the Fear of Death: What is the “Before I Go Solutions Method?” Can It Help?

By Sixty and Me March 17, 2019 Interviews

Have you ever found that completing a dreaded task is easier when someone shares it? Or that organizing the big jobs into small steps makes them much less difficult? For many women over 60, creating a good end-of-life plan can seem overwhelming.

In today’s video, guest Jane Duncan Rogers explains her Before I Go Solutions program. Read on to learn how it uses a shared and practical approach to tackle this very sensitive subject.

The Before I Go Solutions (BIG) Method: What to Expect

Jane’s idea is that older women are more likely to complete an end-of-life plan when working on it with others. Whether you share the effort with family members, friends or strangers who have the same goal, the 16-week BIG online course makes the process much easier.

To simplify things, the course has two five-module sections. Section One covers your end-of-life legal documents, such as a will, power of attorney and advance directive.

Section Two discusses your funeral, what will become of your online presence and your living legacy. That’s whatever you create in life to make sure you’re remembered as you want when you’re gone.

By breaking things down this way, Jane offers two options. If you’re over 60 and without an end-of-life plan, commit to the entire 16-week course. If you’ve already taken the legal steps or made your after-death arrangements, choose the section you still need to complete.

When the Shared Online Course Won’t Work For You

Is your schedule or budget too tight for the online BIG course? Are you uncomfortable with the idea of sharing the experience with strangers? Then use one of Jane’s other formats:

Read and follow the steps in her book Before I Go: the Essential Guide to Creating a Good End of Life Plan. It covers all the course material and includes a chapter on starting end-of-life conversations with the relevant people.

Or go to her website and download the BIG workbook. It also has all the questions you need to make your plan. Just fill in the answers and store them on your device. Or print them out for filing with your important documents.

Even after giving us these three options, Jane’s not stopping in her mission to “… have end-of-life plans become as normal as birth plans are.”

The BIG Training Program

Jane has implemented the BIG Academy training program for those in counseling, coaching, health care and related fields. If your life experiences have made you realize the importance of her work, this is an opportunity to spread the word!

You’ve Lived Your Life Responsibly. Why Stop Now?

As an older woman who’s spent your life planning and organizing, you’ve had plenty of experience in coping with difficult situations.

How difficult it would be for your loved ones to know how to manage your health care and finances if you were incapacitated? Or, should you die unexpectedly, could they give you the funeral or after-death remembrances you’d like?

Letting anxiety keep us from making an end-of-life plan means we’re passing the responsibility for these decisions to others. And they’ll always have doubts that they did what we would have wanted!

What fears have kept you from making an end-of-life plan? If you’ve made one, what are your tips on getting started? What were the biggest challenges and how did you overcome them? Please share in the conversation below!

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