Years ago, five floors up in a Mumbai apartment, a sari clad palm reader told me I’d work until I was 78. That still suits me fine since I don’t have ‘retirement’ either in my bank account or my vocabulary. I’m one of the lucky ones that loves working and can’t imagine living without this passion that daily spurs me on.
Early, but slow to wake up, it takes a while for my brain to kick in and get clicking. For years I started my morning going through emails with a steaming chocolate sprinkled cappuccino at my side.
I have four email accounts and could easily spend an hour and a half reading and answering the real correspondence and deleting all the junk mail. It felt like my morning was shot by the time I’d sit down to breakfast.
One of the articles I wrote for Sixty and Me was about getting out of our comfort zones from time to time to shake things up, stirring the pot of new energy and breaking through old barriers.
About the same time, I read an article on prioritizing to accomplish more. The author wrote that our most productive time was early in the morning when we’re rested, and our brains are at their optimal for performing thinking and reasoning tasks.
On the contrary, exercising at this time was not the optimal for either our brains or bodies. Exercise is more efficient after a protein meal.
The article suggested setting only one or two priorities for the day instead of the long list I was used to. For years, I’d organize my days around long to do lists.
What didn’t get done one day got transferred to the next day, and sometimes things I was resistant to traveled through a string of lists for weeks until guilt or a deadline pushed me into doing the task. I thought of these as ‘self-elongating lists.’
I held sacred my morning coffee-email ritual but knew I also had to practice what I preached and break through old boundaries. Finally, I thought, “What the heck! I’ll give this a try. If it doesn’t work I can go back to my old habit and comfort zone.”
Now, in the evening before I stop working for the day, I pick one or two things I’m resistant to doing. For example, tasks like cold calling a potential customer, dealing with bank business or taxes. Two of these go on the top of my list to accomplish in the morning before I languish over emails.
If there’s nothing in the resistance category, I choose a couple of pressing tasks to accomplish that day. To be honest with you, there is also a long trailing list of other things, but these two tasks are bolded and on the top of the list. They get top priority and my brain’s best functioning.
After doing this for just one week, I felt I’d been given a gift. As if by magic, the things I’d been resistant to doing were accomplished. A sense of wellbeing and pride now color my mornings. And at breakfast, instead of feeling the day is shot, I have even more energy to continue.
Many Sixty and Me readers are already retired. My non-working friends tell me they don’t know how they found time to work as their days are filled now with other activities.
This prioritizing technique can work for active retirees as well. Life seems to get busier and busier, and it’s easy to let important but boring tasks slide, like balancing the check book.
Try it and I think you’ll find, as I did, that you have a new outlook in your mornings.
How do you prioritize activities you are resistant to take on? What are you procrastinating about? Please feel free to share your most unwelcome tasks for today and how you tackle them.
*sigh* I don’t wish to be critical….this would have been a wonderful suggestion in my working days. Now retired for quite some time, I tried this for the weekend and didn’t like it.
It was hard for me to be retired, at first. I intended to work forever, as my job/career didn’t feel like ‘work.’ Health issues brought about the decision to retire early. I was lost without the structure of a job. It took some time…
Today I enjoy doing what I want, and also what needs to be done, when I actually feel like doing it! What freedom. My health limits require that I can only do one or two activities or list items in a day. I know what they are because I have time to remember! And there are less things TO remember.
When I want to do the things that I must do…an old quote reminds me that this is the ultimate freedom.
It took time for me to love my slowed down life that at one time would have probably seemed boring to me. (Do anything but bore me!! lol) Today I treasure the leisure, my home, my time. There are fewer ‘things’ in my life, AND I have time to truly enjoy what I have.
I just got back from a 2 week vacation visiting friends and family. The main things I have to do are organize upcoming MD appts., and order groceries to be delivered. How will I “tackle” this? Well, I no longer tackle. I am puttering through email and unpacking my suitcases a little at a time, and my lists are (1) Dr. appts to be made, and (2) a grocery list. I write stuff down as I think of them, and before the afternoon is gone, I will know what Dr. to call first, and will have put my grocery order in on-line. I may even have my suitcases unpacked. I’ve answered some emails and texts with my coffee, laughed with friends, and wrote this LONG post in the meantime.
I had a great job and awesome career. NI continue to learn to enjoy what IS. Today.
You sound like you have retirement down pat! And you are enjoying your life. Congratulations!
I had been stalling on decluttering my wardrobe…yesterday I did bag one of donations and today bag two. My energy is very low at the moment…the death of a good friend but I know he’d want me to carry on…so I’m doing just that. Plus…..I felt very good about myself donating some beautiful.linen trousers and à pair of bermuda shorts.of very good quality.
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Jane – it is so hard to lose the people we love. I salute you for getting the decluttering done!
Good for you, carrying on as you remember your friend! Sending love & empathy your way.