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How Can You Tell if He’s Interested?

By Michele Burghardt May 29, 2023 Dating

Regardless of how long you’ve been dating someone new, until you have a conversation about exclusivity, you’re still only dating. This means he can date other women, and you can date other men. You’re keeping your options open until you find the one.

Dating and/or talking to multiple men at the same time keeps you from showering one specific man with all your attention because you simply don’t have the time. But what happens when you begin to have feelings for someone during the process? How can you tell if he feels the same way?

5 Signs He’s Romantically Interested

  1. He introduces you to his inner circle. Work events are one thing, but if he introduces you to his family and close friends, you know he’s interested. 
  2. He changes his appearance. For example, he suddenly starts wearing a pink shirt because you mentioned previously that you think men who wear pink look sexy.
  3. He uses the word ‘we’ when he talks about his future. 
  4. He lets you see his silly side. He’s open and comfortable enough with you to be his true self. 
  5. He plans grand gestures and elaborate dates to win you over.

Of course, these aren’t the only ways a man can express love. Maybe you simply don’t understand how to read his love language. Or maybe he’s simply too shy to show his feelings because he’s not good at picking up social cues and is afraid of rejection. Yes, this really happens.

Men Fall Differently

Although men may be awkward about expressing their feelings, they typically fall in love faster than women. They like to become exclusive quickly to eliminate any competition. They commit first, and then take the necessary time to get to know you, while women like to get to know a man first, before they commit. Yes, our plan is better because it helps us determine if he can go the distance and saves us from wasting our time. 

Talk It Out

Once you notice you’re having feelings for someone, I recommend open and honest communication. It’s the only way to truly understand if your partner shares your feelings and romantic goals. This doesn’t need to be a big, deep conversation.

Men communicate directly and to the point and will be more receptive to your conversation with this approach. If you pick the right time, it could be something as simple as, “Hey Bob, what are we doing here, are we in it to win it, or not?” This is a lighthearted way to start a deeper conversation.

If you have this type of conversation before your feelings really blossom, you’ll be more objective hearing his response. Once you fall in love it’s difficult to move on even when you know it’s the best thing to do.

The Point of Dating

The most important thing to remember is that dating is all about finding someone who loves you the way you want to be loved. It’s not about settling for second best or being happy with the crumbs a man wants to throw you. Believe you’re the prize and know your perfect man is out there looking for you right now, just like you’re looking for him.

If you have a hard time believing your perfect man is out there looking for you, join my VIP list so you can be one of the first to explore the four key ingredients to finding love in my new Date Great Guys on-demand coaching program.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Have you ever settled for someone you knew wasn’t a good fit? What did you learn from that experience?

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Of course. Haven’t we all at some time? Maybe settling is just someone to pass the time with temporarily, which is fine as long as he knows that. It’s never good to settle for a man, a job or anything else. I learned that life is too short to not be happy.

Michele Burghardt

Hi Kim, I so agree with you. I’m not sure I’ve always done that, but it’s definitely something I’ve done since I’ve gotten older & wiser. Thanks for the response.


The Author

Michele Burghardt is an author, speaker, and dating coach for women 50 and over with 20 + years of experience in the self-help area. She believes loving yourself is the first step to finding love. You can learn more about her transformational coaching style and her book at

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