Regardless of how long you’ve been dating someone new, until you have a conversation about exclusivity, you’re still only dating. This means he can date other women, and you can date other men. You’re keeping your options open until you find the one.
Dating and/or talking to multiple men at the same time keeps you from showering one specific man with all your attention because you simply don’t have the time. But what happens when you begin to have feelings for someone during the process? How can you tell if he feels the same way?
Of course, these aren’t the only ways a man can express love. Maybe you simply don’t understand how to read his love language. Or maybe he’s simply too shy to show his feelings because he’s not good at picking up social cues and is afraid of rejection. Yes, this really happens.
Although men may be awkward about expressing their feelings, they typically fall in love faster than women. They like to become exclusive quickly to eliminate any competition. They commit first, and then take the necessary time to get to know you, while women like to get to know a man first, before they commit. Yes, our plan is better because it helps us determine if he can go the distance and saves us from wasting our time.
Once you notice you’re having feelings for someone, I recommend open and honest communication. It’s the only way to truly understand if your partner shares your feelings and romantic goals. This doesn’t need to be a big, deep conversation.
Men communicate directly and to the point and will be more receptive to your conversation with this approach. If you pick the right time, it could be something as simple as, “Hey Bob, what are we doing here, are we in it to win it, or not?” This is a lighthearted way to start a deeper conversation.
If you have this type of conversation before your feelings really blossom, you’ll be more objective hearing his response. Once you fall in love it’s difficult to move on even when you know it’s the best thing to do.
The most important thing to remember is that dating is all about finding someone who loves you the way you want to be loved. It’s not about settling for second best or being happy with the crumbs a man wants to throw you. Believe you’re the prize and know your perfect man is out there looking for you right now, just like you’re looking for him.
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