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On Regrets… A Book Review of The Midnight Library (A Library Like No Other)

By Mary Lou Harris November 03, 2022 Lifestyle

The Midnight Library by Matt Haig is a worthwhile, thought-provoking and sometimes humorous read. Although his novel is set primarily in Bedford, England, the main character, Nora, does a form of time travel to several locations as she waffles between life and death.

Haig’s book tackles a number of difficult and meaningful subjects: kindness, loneliness, mental health, and learning to love life. The subject that resonated most with me was the issue of regrets.

Regret Is a Tough Thing

It’s difficult to undo a decision, an action or an inaction. When we regret any of those, we assume that things would, of course, have been better for ourselves and others had we acted differently.

Is there an alternate universe where we could see or live the life of ourselves and others had we made a different decision or taken a different course, said yes rather than no?

In this book, Hague takes Nora through alternate lives where she learns that many times there was no need for regret. The alternative outcome could have led to a miserable life, or could have had negative ramifications on others that she had no way of seeing.

As the book opens, Nora is going through a bad spot. She lives in a dreary apartment with her cat, her closest companion. She is estranged from her brother and former friend.

Learning that her cat has died in the street is close to the last straw. That last straw comes the following day when she is told she is being let go from her dead-end job.

Despondent, Nora attempts suicide. She wakes in a netherworld between life and death, a world of unnamed books on endless shelves. She meets a muse, a former librarian from her early school years who guides her through the library’s rules.

Each book contains an alternative to the life she lived based on a regret, a decision not made, a choice overlooked or cast aside. Rows and rows of unnamed books, when opened, contained a version of a life she had not lived. They would take her to a universe where she will briefly experience life based on the path not taken.

Where the Alternatives Lead

Nora’s primary regrets are with decisions she made that had an impact on family and friends. She opens a book and time travels to her decision to stop swimming, a sport where she was a young star with a future. Her father was invested in her swimming, attended all of her practice and meets, and was deeply disappointed when she dropped it.

In this alternative life, she continues to swim, and in fact becomes a famous olympian. However, her success turns her mother’s world upside down when her father has an affair with the mother of another swimmer he meets through Nora’s practices.

Another book of regret takes her to the rock band where she is the popular lead singer. Her brother and a friend are fellow band members. As the band began to be successful, she left it. Her brother was hurt and angry and as a result they became estranged.

In her alternative universe, Nora stays with the band and becomes a well-known singer. She learns her brother didn’t handle success as well as she, succumbed to the lifestyle and died. Nora is heartbroken.

In yet another book of regret, she pops into a marriage with a man she walked away from before their wedding. As a couple, they had talked about someday buying a pub in the country and making it their life.

In this book of regret, she has gone through with the wedding, and they are living above a historic pub. She learns quickly that he has had several affairs with patrons and is dismissive of her.

Is It Useful to Regret?

Through many of the books of regret, guided by the library muse, Nora realizes the regrets were primarily based on the dreams and desires of others. Though she had talent in music and sports, those dreams of her success were projected by family members, they were not her own.

The dream of buying a pub in the country was the dream of her fiancé. She simply bought into it. Her decision to walk away from the wedding had been, in fact, the right one.

I recommend reading The Midnight Library to learn how Nora survives her suicide attempt and further, how she redirects her life.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What are your regrets, if any? Do you regret walking away from a relationship? Do you regret moving to a different city, or not moving and still wondering what life would be like had you made that move? Do you regret decisions that made your family unhappy, even though they seemed right for you?

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Linda Kline-Lau

The premise of the book is great, but the writing was very weak…


I am living thru or rather trying to recover from a bad decision. It feels like there are emotional phases to go thru almost like with death. Anger, disappointment, sadness, etc. Sometimes I tell my family that yes, I agreed to buy a home with my brother and sister in law, but do I have to suffer the rest of my life for that bad decision?


The book sounds interesting because we all live with some regrets. I regret a couple of things like not moving back to my home town and staying in an unhealthy relationship too long. Like the character I made my decision based on others. Now since retiring I am focused on my happiness first.


I read this book and got much out of it. That said, why all the spoilers in your article; why not leave more for the future reader to discover while enjoying this book on their own. That’s what make this such a worthwhile read, the learning and discovery along the way. Then they might be able to apply this better to this own life if they don’t already know the outcomes ahead of time. Just my thought on this.

Mary Lou Harris

Thanks for the input, Lori. Although my article explores several events particularly relating to regret, I do hope readers will pick up the book for more. I assure them I left additional events in Nora’s midnight library to explore afresh. There are several alternative universe scenarios not discussed in my article that are exciting, frightening, sad and just laughing-out-loud funny.


I got so much out of this book and continue to use this idea that agonizing over regret is a waste of my time and energy, and have utilized it in my life since reading it a year ago. I’ve also recommended it to many people. Having gone through three marriages and feeling such a sense of regret, for at least the very first one, this book assisted me in realizing that I needed to let go of that regret. We all probably know that it’s ridiculous to wallow in regret or think the grass is greener, but for me this book really brought it into play.

Mary Lou Harris

I agree, Dana. As I read I found myself exploring some of my own pointless regrets.

The Author

Mary Lou Harris is a proponent of active living, community volunteerism and inquisitive travel. After a post age 60 retirement from a career in public service, she expanded those interests to include ultra-trail running, hiking and extended-stay travel. She can be contacted through her website or on Twitter at @stillarunner.

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