Among mature women, the topic of finding love and building a relationship is a common one. Some say it’s hard. Others say it’s impossible. No one says it’s easy. Lisa Copeland – a senior dating coach who works exclusively with women over 50 – says it is possible, and she wants to show you how to be successful at it.
Margaret Manning recently spoke with Lisa, whose website offers concrete steps you can follow to help you find someone special, about how to find and build a good relationship after 60. Enjoy the show!
Lisa says that the single most important thing you need before even beginning your search for love is self-confidence. Embracing yourself for who you are and feeling empowered are essential before stepping into the dating world.
You also need a very distinct picture of the type man you want, along with a clear understanding of men at this age. Once you have all of these, you’re ready to begin.
According to Lisa, there are really four ways to meet men: online, in real life, through a matchmaker, or through family and friends. She advises you utilize two of these options at once. Don’t rely on one alone.
The most important element in your online dating profile isn’t your biography, it’s your picture! The necessity of a great profile picture is paramount, and Lisa suggests you have two — one close up and one photo from faraway.
Don’t try to hide what you look like, or men may feel lied to when they first meet you. Instead, have a fantastic, authentic photo of yourself smiling and looking your best.
Where’s the best place to meet? According to Lisa, practically everywhere! She advises that you make a list of 26 places in your area, one for every letter of the alphabet.
Go to a place every day and make eye contact with someone, ask a question, give a compliment and have a conversation. You’ll be amazed at how many people you meet that way, with the added benefit of seeing whom they are in real life, instead of through an online profile.
The poor matchmaker. So many people just don’t like them, don’t trust them and think they don’t work. However, don’t be dissuaded from trying.
The trick to a good experience with a matchmaker is being extremely clear about what you want in a man and in a relationship. Think carefully about what will truly make you happy, so the matchmaker can tailor her search for you.
The truth is that finding love is different now than it was when you were younger. Back then, having chemistry was central to finding a mate.
For mature women, chemistry often develops later in a relationship. So don’t discount someone because you don’t feel instant chemistry. It’s important to develop a good friendship first.
Remember, feeling good about yourself, no matter what age you are, is the first step. Think about what you have to offer in a relationship. What are your greatest strengths? Your best features?
Then go ahead and set up that online profile. See whom you can meet in real life!
Let family and friends know you’re open to blind dates. Try a matchmaker. Whatever you choose to do, always remember the one feature that men typically find the most attractive in a woman – her smile! So do it, and do it often.
Maybe you’ll find a special someone. Perhaps you’ll make some new male friends. The important thing is to get out there, put your best foot forward and take the risk. You’ve little to lose and so much to gain!
Are you looking for love after 60? Will you try the steps Lisa suggests you to take? What have you done in your search for a satisfying relationship? Let’s have a chat!
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