There are days when the body quietly reminds you who is in charge. It doesn’t ask permission. It doesn’t check your plans. It simply slows you down, and with it, something else slows down too – your mind.
Last night, I didn’t feel well. Nothing serious, just enough to take the edge off everything. But what caught me off guard wasn’t the physical discomfort. It was the mental fog that came with it.
I’ve spent a lot of time paying attention to how music affects the mind – how certain sounds can settle you, even open a small door to clarity. I’ve come to trust that. There’s a certain confidence that comes from knowing that when things feel scattered, there are ways to gently guide yourself back.
But not yesterday. Yesterday, none of it seemed to reach me, and that stayed with me.
The music was still there. The same songs, the same tones, the same intention behind listening. But the response was different. Or maybe it wasn’t the response that changed, but the part of me that receives it.
Because my first instinct was to push against it. To wonder what was wrong. To question why I couldn’t think clearly, why I didn’t feel like myself. There’s a subtle expectation we carry, often without realizing it, that we should be able to return to ourselves at will. That clarity is something we can choose, if we just try hard enough.
It took a little while before another thought came in, quieter this time. Maybe nothing was wrong. Maybe this was simply what it feels like when the body needs something different.
There’s something humbling about that realization. The body has its own timing, its own rhythm, and it doesn’t always align with what we would prefer. It asks for rest in a way that isn’t negotiable. And when it does, the mind follows.
Not in a dramatic way. Just a soft dimming. A step back from sharpness. From focus. From the need to engage with everything the way we usually do.
When the body is tired or unwell, the mind doesn’t operate the same way. It isn’t as sharp. It isn’t as willing. And yet, we often meet that moment with resistance. We expect ourselves to carry on as if nothing has changed.
But something has.
And perhaps there’s a kind of understanding in recognizing that – not as a setback, but as part of being human. To step back, just a little. To let the day be what it is.
There’s a difference between giving up and giving space. One comes from frustration. The other comes from recognition. From noticing what is actually happening instead of what we wish were happening.
To notice that clarity, energy, even creativity, don’t disappear. They pause. And like most things that pause, they return. Not because we force them to, but because we give them the space.
I’ve begun to wonder how many of those moments in life we misinterpret. How often we think something is wrong, when in fact something is simply asking for time.
Time to settle. Time to recalibrate. Time to let the body lead for a while instead of insisting the mind take control.
There’s a quiet kind of forgiveness in that. Not something spoken, just something allowed. A recognition that we don’t have to be at our best every day to still be ourselves.
We don’t lose who we are in those moments. We just experience a different version of it. One that is slower, quieter, perhaps less certain – but no less real.
Sometimes, it’s enough to trust that we’ll find our way back – in our own time.
Have you been unwell lately? Was it your body being in distress? How did your mind handle it?
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I’m listening to my body. I rest when I need to. I also accepted the fact that I can no longer do the same activities/work that I did 10 or 15 years ago. It’s okay and I will be okay. Things will get done. I am not killing myself. I want to enjoy each and every moment I have left!
Hi Lauren,
There’s a quiet wisdom in what you said that really resonated with me. I’m 83 now, and I’ve had to come to terms with many of the same realizations. I’ve slowed down too—but what I’ve found is that if I just do a little at a time, things still get done.
Not as fast as they used to, no… but they still get done.
And maybe more importantly, they get done without that feeling of pushing past what the body is trying to tell us. There’s something to be said for working with the day instead of against it.
I like what you said about enjoying each moment. That feels like the real shift, doesn’t it? Not giving up… just adjusting the pace so we can stay in it a little longer.
Thank you for sharing that—it meant something to me.
—Bruce
It boggles my mind that people do not listen to what their bodies are saying to them especially as they age. I know women who are still trying to do the same amount of stuff that they used to and not taking into consideration the shift ageing makes and the necessity to plan your day and manage their energy. Making sure there is exercise (and not the exercise you did 20 years or even 10 years ago) and making sure there is some yoga, or other forms of gentle exercise. Slow down and listen!
This article is so true. I was glad to read it. There are times when my mind is so foggy. If I’m at home I fall on the bed for a nap. If I’m with friends or family I just get so embarrassed. Now I will say, “Time for a break!”