It just may be time to reset the alarm on your dating life. Since we don’t come with factory settings, it’s not as simple as Control + Alt + Delete.
And it’s common knowledge that New Year’s resolutions last… well, not long. In fact, if you even made them – you may have already forgotten them! The majority of people think about resolutions, but don’t actually write them down or actively pursue them. If they do, they’ve gone to the wayside in a few weeks, statistically.
So, here I offer some ideas to think about as you begin 2024:
Elon Musk knows how to prioritize his time and energy on the tasks that have the most impact on his goals. He uses the Pareto Principle to identify the 20% of tasks that generate 80% of the results. Elon fan or not, this guy gets things done.
I teach my clients this method – and yes, while it’s not the same as the Pareto Principle, we eliminate 80% of the time you spend on dating sites/apps by working smarter and using the online dating system to maximize results, instead of frustration.
Not all the way committed to dating? I’ll tell you right now – if you’re not seriously looking, don’t waste your time.
Just listen to Taylor Swift, “Being fearless isn’t being 100% not fearful; it’s being terrified but you jump anyway.”
Not for a Botox check. Dating success begins and ends with you. (Yep, I can give you help, but in the end, it’s going to be your attitude that will bring you the success you want.)
Sharing your goals with someone else – a trusted friend or loved one – will make you accountable. Richard Branson is a huge advocate of this – and just look at what this guy has accomplished – while having a blast!
The people around you – and their attitude – matter a lot. Enough said!
Sage advice given to me by my mom who practiced this even with six children around. Going out with friends keeps you fresh, interesting and happy. Ever read any longevity reports or watch the Blue Zone Netflix series? Having friends is key to a happy life. And people want to date happy people.
We all have 1440 minutes in the day – what makes each of us different is how we use them. Want unique and informed topics to talk about on dates? Try the free 1440 News that will keep you up to date on unique goings-on in the world. It takes a few minutes each morning – and I’m a daily reader.
Ok, one last thought from one of my favorite people, Ken Jennings of Jeopardy: “Self-esteem is important because it sets up a powerful cycle of self-growth and willingness to take risks.” Hey, this guy went from a software programmer to Jeopardy super winner to now host of the show and best-selling author. While still being likable.
Limit media exposure, including whatever’s on your social media feed!
Here’s to a wonderful 2024!
What will you do differently this year with dating? How will you make yourself accountable? What is it that you really want – a relationship, companionship, marriage?
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