Staying connected with your grandchildren when they live far away can be challenging. Believe me, I know! I have seven grandchildren ranging from 20 years old to 11 months old. All but one live in Southern California, and I live in North Carolina. That’s practically a country apart! I admit, it’s been challenging to stay connected as there are extenuating circumstances surrounding most of the grandchildren.
I wish I had known about the ideas you’re about to read as I believe it would have made the connection between all of us stronger.
On the positive side, living far from your grandchildren presents a fantastic opportunity to get creative and make the U.S. Postal Service happy!
Before I get into the Five Ways, I want to share something I did for my granddaughter all through school and it might spark the same idea for you. When Micaiah was in first grade, I sent one red rose to her at her school on the first day of school. Second grade, 2 roses, third grade, 3 roses… and so on.
I always sent the same note: “Do a good day’s work and act like somebody!” It’s a saying that Andy says to Opie on an episode of The Andy Griffith Show.
To not embarrass her, I sent the roses to her house during her four high school years. Finally, the day arrived! The first day of her senior year in high school, she received a dozen roses from me, her grandma!
Now, let’s get into the Five Ideas so you can keep your relationship with your grandchildren strong and vibrant. The fun thing is that you can modify the items in each package, so they’re age appropriate and have appeal for each gender. The ideas are geared towards elementary school aged children, but, again, they can be adapted for older children.
Remember, these are just the beginning – let your imagination run wild!
Who doesn’t love a surprise party, especially when it arrives in the mail? Imagine your grandchild’s delight when they receive a package filled with:
Encourage them to have a little party and send you the pictures. They can also use Facetime or Google Duo to create an in-person experience. Not only will this create a memorable celebration, but it will also give you a glimpse into their special day.
Unleash your artistic grandchild’s inner Picasso with an “Artist Day” package. Fill a box with:
Ask your grandchild to create their masterpiece and send it back to you in a return, stamped envelope. Display their artwork proudly on your fridge or frame it to create a mini art gallery. This activity not only nurtures their creativity but also provides a tangible way to share their progress and imagination with you.
Spark a lifelong love of reading with a “Reading Day” package. Tailor the contents to your grandchild’s interests and age.
Encourage them to write their own stories inspired by their reading and send them to you. You can even start a “family book club” where you both read the same book and discuss it over video calls or letters. This can be a wonderful way to bond over shared adventures in the pages of a book.
Help your grandchild cultivate a green thumb with a “Gardening Day” package. Include:
Guide your grandchild through the planting process via video call or letters. Watching their plants grow will be a rewarding experience, and they’ll have you to thank for their blossoming garden. Plus, it’s a great way to teach them patience and the joys of nurturing life.
Turn your grandchildren into little chefs with a “Cooking Day” package. Fill the Budding Chef box with:
Encourage your grandchild to start their own family recipe notebook. They can add their favorite recipes, including ones you’ve shared with them. They might even invent their own recipes to send to you! Cooking together, even from afar, can create lasting memories and instill valuable skills. Again, Facetime or Google Duo can help enrich the experience.
These five ideas are the tip of the iceberg. Tailor each package to your grandchild’s age, personality, and interests. The key is to make the interaction effort personal and fun. By sending these thoughtful packages, you’ll not only stay connected but also create lasting memories and foster a sense of closeness that distance can’t diminish.
So, what are you waiting for? Start planning your first package and see how your relationships blossom. Happy connecting!
Also read, INTRODUCING GRANDCHILDREN TO THE MOVIES YOU LOVE.
What creative ways have you used to connect with your distant grandchildren? Have you sent them packages, written letters or something else? If your grandchildren live nearby, how do you build your relationship with them?
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I keep a group text going with all of them where I send jokes, ask trivia questions, send cute pics etc. It keeps us all communicating. They don’t all always respond but I know they all see them. I also went to dollar store and wrapped up little surprises for them to unwrap one an hour for long car rides. Big hit!
Thank you for your reply, Sharon! I’m glad the group text works for you and like you said, they might always answer but you know they see them. Dollar Tree worked wonders when my grandsons were younger! They could each get 10 presents each at Christmas and they were delighted! Now that they’re in middle school and high school, it’s gift cards, which is so impersonal, but since there’s some estrangement, I’m not sure what they like.
I love the ideas suggested and even have many others in mind, but our estranged daughter has never let us meet our grandchildren and we haven’t been able to form any kind of bond with them. Our oldest is 9yrs old and the youngest just over a year. They only live 20 minutes away, but this estrangement epidemic that is changing family dynamics seems impossible to navigate. I’ve sent cards, dropped of toys, had friends deliver gifts and even sent gifts through personalized companies (Zazzle, etc) and gotten no response of any kind. Not sure if our estranged daughter even shares them with our grandchildren. I even sent a dressed character from Frozen, to their home for a birthday party (which was very expensive) and she was not receptive and sent them away. It’s one thing if our estranged daughter doesn’t want to see us, but it’s a new form of child abuse when children aren’t able to know other family members especially grandparents that would love and protect them more than anyone, besides their parents. Out of ideas on how to let them know we exist and want them to know us. suggestions?
Bonnie, my heart breaks for your estrangement with your daughter and her kids. I applaud your continued creative effort, but I guess at some point, we must detach in love and unhook from the situation. We can’t change our adult children’s perception of whatever they believe we did or didn’t do, we can only heal and care for ourselves. Someday the kids will be 18 and can make their own determination on whether or not they want to pursue a relationship with their grandma. No doubt, they’ve been poisoned with the resentment of their mother, but if they possess ANY independent thinking, they’ll figure it out when they’re old enough.
I pray that you and your daughter will find restoration and healing at some point!
Bonnie wydra, my heart goes out to you. It appears the owner of the blog deleted the recent one on family separation/estrangement and how people manage it. I enjoyed reading it so I am quite disappointed in its disappearance.
You could take this to court as grandparents DO have rights.
Great suggestions. I wrote them all down. Great gift ideas even if grandkids are close by!
You’re right, Cheryse! Even if they live close by because who doesn’t love a good mail day?
I ❤️ ❤️ the story about the Rose’s. How did you think of that? I’ve never seen or heard of anyone doing it. So sweet and special 💕 the note to cherish. Then the dozen most likely her first dozen from her grandma. Oh my goodness I just love this so much. Wish I had thought of that or been creative like these box gifts before mine A) became older B) I now don’t know what they like who they are as my daughter has decided she has some anger issue with me, won’t discuss it, I for the life of me can’t figure it out. Regardless she’s putting her issues onto the grandkids and withholding them from me. Ie: zero contact, she’s moved , I don’t know her address; she just remarried! I don’t know to who!! She has me blocked from social media. So. It breaks my heart ❤️ reading all the fun things I’m missing out on doing, would love to do, for them. And that they’re missing out on knowing me as well.
I’m so glad you loved the roses story, Shelley! The idea was presented when I was having dinner with a potential client, a former NBA player (Cory) and a long-time sports agent in Newport Beach, CA. Cory said he had done the roses for his daughter and my heart practically jumped out of my chest with excitement.
I hope others adopt the same idea and I’m sure it could be adapted to boys using small model cars, or trading cards, or some other significant item.
I feel your pain regarding your grandkids and their mom, your daughter. I’m disconnected from several of my grandkids due to possessiveness or controlling behavior from the other grandparent, or due to adoption way back. Like you, I want my grandkids to know who I am, and likewise, but until circumstances change, we can pray for them and wait until they’re 18 and can decide for themselves.
Shelley,
This breaks my heart to hear. Do you have anyone who could help you bridge the gap with your daughter (I’m just coming off a year and a half separation from my daughter and grands)
Hi Shelley, as a psychologist, I can’t help but recommend some therapy to deal with the alienation of your grandchildren. It would also be great to try to set up a family therapy session with your daughter. But, if you can’t find her or know how to contact her, I am not sure how to do that. Wherever you are, there are therapists for this type of issue. Please for your own peace of mind, look into it. check out openpathcollective.org or betterhelp.com
Great suggestion, Julie! I’m a firm believer that therapy is helpful for everyone. I’m familiar with betterhelp.com but not openpathcollective.com, so thank you for sharing that one.
Dear Shelley. You can find help in rejectedparents com
Best Annette
Oh my word, Annette, what an awesome resource! I’m going to check into it.
Thank you!!
These are great ideas! We have 19 grandchildren and our kids set me up with a group on Marco polo where I read stories to the kids and they send me back a video where they tell me their favorite part of the story! It is really fun and I have so many children’s books at our house anyway! My next project is to start reading a chapter book to them.
Wow, 19 grandchildren! That’s so awesome, Cynthia! I, too, love Marco Polo but hadn’t considered using it for the grandchildren.
If you have younger grandchildren ages 3-8, they might like my two bestselling, multiple award-winning children’s books I co-wrote with my cousin: Gizelle’s Silly Soggy Day and Gizelle’s Whimsical Wintery Day
I have 13 grandkids ranging in age from 23 to 16, 8 boys and 5 girls…..I’m going to try a group text and see what kind of response I get. Thanks for the great ideas
Love this!
So glad you found value from the article, Dee! I’ll be posting more tips in the next couple weeks.