Do you know what is the # 1 challenge people face when decluttering their home? Getting started.
How about the # 2 challenge people face when decluttering their home? Well, that would be staying motivated.
Congratulations if you found the courage to take those first steps to start decluttering your home so that:
Think of it this way:
You were on a roll! WERE on a roll… past tense!
What happened to your motivation and that strong, seemingly unstoppable drive to declutter your home once and for all?
Why are you suddenly resisting, procrastinating, and finding every imaginable excuse not to dedicate your time to decluttering?
Why did your “can do” mindset revert back to the old “can’t do” way of thinking?
What you may not have anticipated or planned for was the possibility that at some point you might hit roadblocks, lose momentum, and experience bouts of self-doubt.
Having tried and failed many times before, you truly believed that this time you could do it!
And the fact of the matter is, you did accomplish quite a bit of your decluttering… you are half way there!
But when self-doubt and negative self-talk started, you got overwhelmed again at the daunting task you still had ahead of you. Even the best laid plans and aspirations of a clutter-free home now seem like a distant dream.
If this has happened to you, know that you are not alone. As a matter fact, I would venture to say it happens to all of us at one time or another because the “messy middle” is where the going gets tough.
We lose that initial excitement, enthusiasm, and drive to reach the finish line.
We stop telling ourselves we can, and instead, begin telling ourselves, “We can’t,” “It’s too hard,” “It’s impossible” – and then, we quit.
When you think about it, this same mind game of “can” and “can’t” applies to just about anything else in life, we try to accomplish, be it losing weight, learning a new skill, or training for a marathon.
It’s not unusual to take one step forward, and then two steps back. So how DO you pick yourself up and dust yourself off, so you can start all over again?
Why WOULD you stop now if you are already halfway there… or even a tenth of the way there?
Theodore Roosevelt once said, “If you believe you can, you’re halfway there!”
The first step to achieving a goal is to start believing you can succeed. So, if you are truly committed to accomplishing your decluttering goals, and if you truly want to re-ignite that fire, your drive, and determination to succeed, follow these 10 simple steps.
What is the main reason you want to declutter your home? This reason goes deep to your core… it can even make you cry.
Take time to create a vision board that paints a vivid picture of what your life will be like once you are free of clutter.
Be specific. Put it in a place where you see it each morning, let it inspire you, get you excited about the new lifestyle you will have.
Admit that you’ve lost enthusiasm, but you don’t want it to impact your decluttering goals. Identify one or two things that might have contributed to getting off track.
Acknowledge yourself for the progress you’ve made even if it feels like a drop in the bucket. Reminding yourself of those “wins” will inspire you and motivate you to get started once again.
Take time to recall what worked before, why you were able to accomplish your goal of decluttering in at least a few of the areas before you got stuck.
Was there a specific decluttering method that you were able to fit into your daily routine? For example, the burst method that might have allowed you to accomplish 15 to 30 minutes of decluttering each day.
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People in your life who discouraged you and did not support you in achieving your decluttering goals.
Things that triggered strong emotion and memories, both good and bad, that took you out of the game (family photos, love letters, deceased spouse’s clothing).
Devices or technology that took your attention away from decluttering, causing you to lose focus, stole time from the task at hand, and negatively impacted your momentum and productivity (social media, the Internet, phone calls).
Create a plan that includes the following:
Take care of yourself, smile, try to enjoy the journey!
Identify your negative self-talk patterns: “I can’t. I’ll just fail again. It’s too hard!”
Every time you hear yourself being negative, smack it back down like a “Whack Amole.” Immediately reframe, those negative thoughts into positive and useful thoughts, such as “I can succeed. I will succeed. I want this so badly that it’s worth the hard work.”
Take a deep breath each time you hear something negative. Break the cycle of negative self-talk by being patient with yourself. It takes time. Doing this will eventually become a habit, so you will no longer be controlled by negative thoughts that take you off track.
Engage a team of people who will be accountability partners, who will support you in good times and in bad, and who will help you stay on track. They will be there to celebrate your wins and help you get back in the game when you face setbacks.
Focus on the one thing that you are working on right now. (One drawer, one shelf, one closet.) Complete that task before moving onto the next. Progress begets progress.
Yes, decluttering is hard work both physically and mentally, but clutter didn’t accumulate overnight, so it’s not going away overnight. It’s a journey that will take time. Discover ways to have fun along the way.
If you have tried to declutter your home, but got off track, and if you’ve lost that energy and motivation to go the distance, don’t give up.
Start believing you can and you’re halfway there!
As challenging as the decluttering journey might be, you will learn so much about yourself along the way, and when you look back, you’ll say it was worth every minute!
Have you gotten off track in your decluttering project? What made you lose motivation? Are you ready to get back to it?
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