If you were brought up in the 60s and 70s, chances are you were trained to be a strong, independent woman. It’s likely you were taught that you didn’t need a man in your life. You thought that anything a man could do, you could probably do even better.
You proudly took on this masculine energy doing everything you needed to do to get ahead in your career. Yet when it came to love and men, chances are you found yourself struggling.
Men might have told you that you were controlling or demanding. It might have seemed that all men wanted were younger women who fluttered their eyelashes and got their needs met quickly and easily. Something men might not have done for you. This left you at home angry and alone on yet another Saturday night.
Does this sound familiar at all?
It’s time to set the record straight. Here’s the deal. Most men do want to be in a relationship with women closer to their age. This is because they share a common history with each other. Most men do try out younger women because they feel appreciated by them, something they don’t always feel from women their own age.
You see, men want to be your hero. It’s literally in their DNA coding to keep you safe, protected and provided for. They want to make you happy and will do anything within their power to make that happen for you.
The problem is when you need something from a man; chances are you’re using words and phrases he can’t hear. As women, our DNA coding is one of community. So when you ask a man to help you with something, you probably use words like, “Honey, can you help me move this table?”
If a woman heard this phrase, she’d say, “Of course!” This is because she thinks it’s important to lend a helping hand. She will do anything that helps the community be a better place. A man hears this phrase and thinks you are telling him what to do just like his mom did when he was young.
Making a man your hero is the secret to getting his cooperation easily. These two phrases will bring out the hero response in a man. They work very well when you need him to do something for you.
Phrase #1 is “I need your help…” then ask for what you need.
Phrase #2 is “Could you do me a favor…” then ask for what you need.
When I’ve used these phrases, I’ve had men tell me they love helping a woman who needs their help. Try this. It will make a huge difference with the men in your life.
Here’s one last thing you need to know. Men feel underappreciated so thanking them and telling them how much you appreciate what they did for you goes a long way in getting the cooperation of all the men in your life.
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Have you used either of the suggested phrases when trying to get the attention of an older man? Are there any other tips you can share that might be valuable to a woman who is having problems communicating with a man?
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