Maybe you’re still living in the house where you raised the children: Bedrooms remain unused. Closets are full of things accumulated over decades. Memories are in every corner. The garage is stuffed with who knows what.
Maybe you don’t feel quite like you thought you would when you reached this point in your life. You expected to be in control of your own time, to be making plans to travel, taking up interests you’d set aside, maybe even looking for somewhere else to live.
But maybe now the idea of doing any of these things feels daunting or even downright impossible.
Is it your mood? Your age? Your energy level? Are you just lazy? Maybe not. Maybe it’s your stuff.
Having too much stuff in your home can really bog you down psychologically. Clutter can make you feel bad – about yourself, about your home, even about all of life’s possibilities.
Cindy Glovinsky, MSW, a psychotherapist and professional organizer in Ann Arbor, Michigan, who wrote Making Peace with the Things in Your Life, says, “As people clean up, their energy seems to rise, and once clutter is cleaned up, some people begin to work on other issues.”
My friend Marie made a bold decision to clear her clutter, spurred by the theory that clutter in your life can wall in not just your space but your thoughts and dreams, i.e., your life.
She and her husband – it was a second marriage for both of them – had stored a lot of stuff in their garage. So much so, it was impossible to navigate through it without twisting and squeezing, moving stuff out of the way, even sometimes stepping on and over objects and bins.
The garage contained relics from their former households, from her kids’ childhoods, and samples, paperwork, equipment and signage from the long-ago businesses that each of them had owned.
“It made me feel bad every time I drove up to our house,” she said. “I would see the garage and I would know what was inside and I would have this ‘ugh’ feeling.”
She and her husband knew they had to get rid of much of this accumulation, yet it seemed so monumental a task that it sat there for over a decade.
Finally, it dawned on Marie that whenever she brought up possible future plans – exploring Portugal, renting out their house part of the year to live near her daughters, or even building a wall of modular bookshelves for their living room – every discussion seemed heavy, impossible, and it petered out.
They decided they had to clear out the garage.
“Digging through the stuff in the garage was the last thing I wanted to do,” said Marie. “It was old and dusty. There were spiders, memories and regrets. The self-loathing for keeping so many useless things was just something I didn’t want to face. But I knew all of it was walling us in, and we had to take care of it.”
Last July, Marie rented a storage pod for their driveway and announced to her husband that she was going to clean out that garage, with or without him.
He didn’t like the idea of doing the job, but he joined forces with her nevertheless. Together, they faced many an unpleasant, dirty, exhausting Saturday and Sunday, working together on all the items in the garage.
Over that time, they sold, threw away and donated furniture and fixtures, dishes and glassware, sports equipment, tools, paperwork, and more. They delivered carloads of stuff to the hazardous waste facility.
And now they’re done.
Looks like clearing clutter is the next great cure in the world of mental health. For those of us over 60, that’s especially good to know, since at this stage of our lives, most of us do indeed have many belongings stored away in rooms and garages.
The biggest challenge is getting started. One of my favorite ideas to motivate you to clear your clutter is selling your items on eBay.
It’s kind of fun to sell your unneeded items one by one and put a little cash in your pocket. It’s somewhat easier to part with belongings when you know someone else wants them. Maybe this is your year to clear out your clutter and feel better about your life.
Do you have a backlog of ‘things’ in your home that you’ve been planning to clear out for years? What do you think is holding you back? Have you done a major cleanout of your clutter? How did you motivate yourself to get started and keep going? Please join the conversation below!
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How about a post on how to use eBay to sell items. I need to know the detailed steps. Thanks for the article.
I did it. I retired the end of August this year. My two daughters, who live a long way away came and took things they wanted; everything was up for grabs. Valuable art we tossed a coin for, to keep things fair when they both wanted the same things. Many SUV loads later Goodwill was restocked with over 40 years of my stuff. I still have a winter clothes tub for my husband and I each, but most clothes are gone, decorating stuff. Mementos photographed and gone.
I’ve updated, added extra beds and a lot of white linen, turned my house into an Air B&B. I still own my home and can visit. Things are going well with this new project, but we’re heading out to Bali soon to move on with our retirement plans.
I will admit I spent about a year saying goodbye to my “stuff.” Each piece in my home I had to let go of before the August cleanout. I realized I didn’t need it all anymore. As I got deeper into the decluttering, I began to feel freedom, not loss. It even surprised me. So we’re looking for plane tickets… Bali. Always loved that place. Going back to live again. Unemcumbered. Bali girl at 65!
Thank you for the article. It was so many I read like this that helped me to get to this place.
Amen, Karen! Thanks for this reminder. I have a mental list of things I need to clean, straighten and get rid of. Something tells me I better post that list for myself so that I start with the garage sooner than later.
I will make this my mantra. I will get rid of the unseen clutter.
Both my spouse and I are packrats and seemingly unable to get rid of any accumulated items we’ve had for years. Our motto is “Well, that [insert name of item] just might come in handy some day!”
How can we overcome this way of thinking?
I had a bit of this feeling when downsizing my kitchen. A friend said to me “I keep all my spare china and glass at the charity shop”, and that really helped. Donate stuff, let someone else have use of it, pick up anything you need second hand and thus support a good cause :-)