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The Truth About Downsizing and Decluttering: What No One Tells You, but You Need to Know

By Rita Wilkins December 13, 2024 Lifestyle

When I look back on my own downsizing journey, there are so many things I didn’t know that I wish I had known at the time.

While I did get really good at figuring things out over time, it sure would have made the process a lot easier had I known then what I know now. Today’s article and video tell the truth about downsizing and decluttering – what no one tells you but what you need to know.

With the ever-increasing popularity of downsizing and decluttering across all ages and demographics, it’s important for you to know what to expect before you embark on this life-changing decision.

THE GOOD: The Surprising Benefits of Decluttering and Downsizing My Life

After decluttering and downsizing, one of the biggest surprises was how simple my life had become.

Having broken free of the burden of clutter and a home filled with too much stuff, my smaller environment was organized and peaceful, and I knew where everything was.

I was no longer wasting time looking for things.

Living in a smaller home with much less stuff suddenly just made sense!

I had more time, money, freedom, and energy to do all the things I had been wanting to do. I could now focus on what mattered to me because nothing was holding me back. That is, I was in control of my own life. I had all I wanted, all I needed, and had never been happier.

I also realized how little I actually needed and how the quality of my life had improved.

My only question was: Why hadn’t I decluttered and downsized sooner?

THE BAD: The Daily Challenges You Face During the Downsizing and Decluttering Journey

Note that these so-called challenges also became opportunities each day to learn, grow, and become stronger in my resolve to simplify my life.

Each day seemed to bring on a new emotion:

  • Overwhelm, stress, peace
  • Tears, sadness, joy
  • Indecisiveness, decisiveness, clarity

At any given moment, I was filled with self-doubt:

Acknowledging these complex emotions is critical to your decluttering and downsizing success. They’re perfectly normal. Anyone who declutters and downsizes experiences many similar emotions.

The key to success is not to dwell on the emotions and things that hold you back. Instead, constantly remind yourself of WHY you want to downsize and declutter.

Whether it’s to save money, live a simpler life, or have more freedom, shift your focus to one small area, like a drawer, and make one small decision at a time.

This mindset shift is magical because it will help you get unstuck so you can move forward.

THE UGLY: What NOT to Do When Downsizing and Decluttering

Here are 5 big mistakes I made during my journey to owning less. Avoiding these can save you a lot of time, trouble, and heartache:

Trying to Do It All at Once

This is not only impossible but also unwise. Take the time upfront to create a plan and implement your project one area at a time. Set realistic goals, timelines, and intentions for where you’ll live and where your excess items will go.

Trying to Do It Alone

After one exhausting month of decluttering solo, I realized I needed a team. Having support allowed me to create a workable plan and even enjoy the process.

Bringing Too Much Stuff to Your Smaller Home

Overpacking a smaller space is a common mistake. Be mindful of the limited storage in your new home and make thoughtful decisions about what to bring.

Waiting Too Long to Downsize and Declutter

I delayed my move by five years, which led to unnecessary stress, wasted resources, and missed opportunities for joy. Living with less has added years to the quality of my life.

Continuing to Accumulate More

Breaking the cycle of over-accumulation is essential. Learning to say no and understanding your relationship with “more” is critical for living a simpler, more meaningful life.

Misconceptions About Decluttering and Downsizing

“Downsizing Is Stressful and Overwhelming”

While there’s an element of stress, with the right mindset and tools, the process can be smooth, enjoyable, and even fun.

“Decluttering and Downsizing Means Sacrificing Comfort”

This is not true. A thoughtfully downsized home can still reflect your personal style and provide comfort.

“Downsizing Is for Extreme Minimalists”

Downsizing isn’t about extremes – it’s about living a more balanced life with things that serve a purpose and bring joy.

My Top 5 Secrets for Successful Decluttering and Downsizing

Start Small

Complete one area at a time to build momentum and motivation.

Sort into Categories

Use three piles – keep, donate, discard – to help you be more intentional and decisive.

Acknowledge the Emotional Aspect

Letting go can be painful, but remember: memories live in your heart, not in objects.

Focus on Clarity and Freedom

A clutter-free home lets you focus on what matters most: relationships, passions, and personal growth.

Declutter Your Mind

Downsizing isn’t just about your space – it’s about achieving mental clarity and surrounding yourself with what truly matters.

The freedom that comes with decluttering and downsizing is available to anyone, regardless of age, income, or lifestyle. It’s not just for minimalists – it’s for everyone who wants to live a more intentional and fulfilling life.

Remember, downsizing isn’t just about getting rid of things. It’s about living a life aligned with your values and goals. It’s about freedom, clarity, and simplicity.

Time for Reflection:

Have you been thinking about downsizing? What have you attempted to declutter about your home? What mistakes have you made in the process and what did you learn?

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Coleen

Tried to do it all in one day !! And feeling totally overwhelmed and exhausted so I’ve left everything.
starting again to attempt maybe one room at a time

Janne Perry

Or even smaller amounts. One cupboard, a couple of boxes, a chest of drawers… take your time and the process is a lot more enjoyable.

Nancy

There ARE places for books seeking a good home. There are the Free Libraries popping up and there still are resellers like Half Price Books in the East Bay SF, they will even give you store credit for good magazines.
And your store credit may be given away to others like teachers.

Felicia

I am in a perpetual state of declutter. If something new comes in, something old has to go. I do a lot of rehoming at work, which can be challenging. My workspace has become a dumping ground for whatever the residents or their families no longer want. It’s my day off but I’m heading to work to load up my car with items for Assistance League, SPCA Thrift Store…and whoever else will take the stuff. I also have a bag of my own clothes that I no longer wear. I will do what I can to keep items out of the landfills!

Stella Fosse

Just about to start this process and planning a fourth pile: Sell. My local bookstore buys used books – and the ones they don’t want will go to the library sale.

Rita Wilkins The Downsizing Designer

Thanks so much for your recommendation. You have likely inspired others to look into local bookstores to help them Declutter books.

Roseanne Freed

I’m busy decluttering and its a challenging process but I’m getting there slowly.

Stella you’re lucky your local bookstore and library will take your books. There’s no market for books or CDs over here in CA. If one of the local libraries is still taking books they’ll only accept one small box, and the local charity stores don’t want them.

Liz P.

Check out Better World Books! They wlil take your books.

Felicia

Our local used bookstore no longer accepts CD’s or DVD/Blu-ray, and several boxes of books might earn you $2.00. We started taking it all to Friends of the Library. They’re on hiatus until January but since they hold big sales, I enjoy helping them.

Janne Perry

Ah, the freedom! I moved and downsized five years ago together with my husband. A big old Victorian house, beautiful as it was, was a never ending money pit with repairs and maintenance and hard work. We did one last makeover for sale and being rid of ‘things’ was essential to present the home well.

Decluttering was not difficult, I’m naturally inclined to be that way and we were ready! I did the lions share of sorting (clever man left me to it and that was easier for both of us :)

We gave away thousands of $$$ worth of furniture and appliances that wouldn’t fit our new lifestyle – the joy on the faces of neighbourhood recipients was just priceless!

Now, after five years in a small mid century unit, I can unequivocally say it was the best move ever – and it’s easy to buy beautiful quality household items because we need so little. Old family items work with new pieces, everything has its place and it’s sheer joy to know where everything actually is. All of our household items do double duty, no small appliances and gadgets that are for single purpose use.

I don’t miss any of my old ‘stuff’ and I don’t buy junk because there’s simply nowhere to put it! If I buy, something has to go to a charity shop.

It feels so luxurious to have simplified and moved on – highly recommended to all!

Rita Wilkins The Downsizing Designer

Janne, you are the perfect success story for living a simpler life with less!
youve “been there and done that” please continue to share your story because you will motivate others to Declutter And Downsize to a life filled with more freedom and time to pursue what matters means to you at this stage of our lives. Thanks so much for your comment.
Rita Wilkins The Downsizing Designer

Janne Perry

I will definitely encourage others, Rita. Your article was a great reminder for me… my husband and I had a good conversation about how much our lives have changed for the better and the previous negatives of a large home. The constant pressure to be cleaning, renovating, fixing things has gone – we still do those things but with a compact home it’s just so easy! The feeling of freedom is incredible.

I have friends and family who often say that they will have to follow suit but they are procrastinating in a big way. Leaving it so late that the only option is leaving it for your kids/family to deal with is pretty mean in my honest opinion. And why would you when a whole new lifestyle is at the end of the decluttering?

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rocket

I did the major downsize in 2019 after a few years of incredible loss, and got rid of 85% of my “stuff” and moved into a studio that was less that 600 square feet with my 2 small dogs. It was a learning experience and allowed me to reassess next steps and how I wanted to live my life. I stayed in the studio for 3 1/2 years and loved it. In 2023 I bought ab1080 sq ft mid century ranch way up near the Georgia/South Carolina line. I have purchased a “few” pieces of furniture from FB Marketplace. The only new items were a few rugs and a mattress for the guest room. I joined the “Y”, GOP and Chamber. Before I make a purchase, I ask myself, do I need this or am I trying to fill a void? If I buy a new package of socks, I keep a few of the old pairs for dusting and get rid of the rest. It is freeing.

Janne Perry

Well done. A learning experience 100%! Enlightenment and acceptance of change for the better.
My percentage of stuff ‘dispensed with’ is about the same as yours – the remaining 15% is made up of useful and beautiful items + family items that are truly meaningful to me. I

The Author

Rita Wilkins, known as The Downsizing Designer, is a nationally recognized interior and lifestyle design expert, TEDx speaker, and author of Downsize Your Life, Upgrade Your Lifestyle: Secrets to More Time, Money, and Freedom. She inspires Baby Boomers to reimagine their lives and embrace living abundantly with less. Jumpstart your journey with Rita’s The Letting Go Workbook—your all-in-one guide to decluttering with ease.

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