Ever been in a situation like this before?
You don’t pick up the phone in time and when you call the person back, the first words out of your mouth are “I’m sorry.”
It happens all the damn time and you’re probably not even aware of it. Or you are aware of it, but you’ve just accepted it as a way of life.
Marriages, especially ones that have lasted for decades, take work. Every day will not be a honeymoon. Arguments, compromises, and sacrifices will no doubt be daily currency. While the give and take in a relationship is normal, there are instances when staying married is not a sustainable option.
As a divorce coach for fabulous women 50 and better, one of the most common refrain I hear from clients has to do with their ex – especially during the holiday season.
The reason we struggle with trust after a divorce is because we feel like we’ve been betrayed. It’s a crappy weight to have on your shoulders. Similar to its other invasive cousins – anger, guilt, and resentment – losing trust after your long-term marriage keeps you from getting your life back.
As the summer gradually winds down and the days start getting cooler, I’ve been thinking a lot about a growing trend in divorce.
No matter where you are in the divorce process, anxiety is unavoidable.
You know the feeling all too well. Stress and fear of the unknown. The loss of control of the life we thought we knew.
As you recover from your divorce and move on, there is one all-too-common emotion that causes way more headaches than you need.
Anger. Being ticked off. The persistent rage that will not leave you but could jeopardize your future relationships.
Does this ever happen to you?
There you are, going along with your day, minding your own business and it hits you. The whiny, super-annoying feeling that tells you that no matter what you did during your marriage, it just wasn’t good enough and you should have done better.