7 Reasons Having a Network of Girlfriends is Important as We Age
Women tend to live longer than men, and there may come a time in the life of a couple when the wife is left all alone. This can be devastating if she’s been dependent on her spouse for emotional support when things go wrong.
Having a girlfriend network – whether it’s just a few friends or a large gaggle of them – is an important factor in achieving quality longevity and future happiness for women.
In Okinawa, Japan, centenarian women stay connected with lifelong circles of friends called a “moai.” The group commits to provide support and camaraderie to each other as they age.
The members of the moai, who have known each other for decades, help each other solve problems, manage emotional crises and reduce stress.
It’s easy to become isolated as we grow older. Children leave, we retire from our jobs, and we cut off ties that are related to both. Some of us stay busy, but others end up sitting alone in front of the TV, feeling depressed.
Below are seven reasons to form a girlfriend network as we age.
Sharing Feelings
Typically, women are more receptive to sharing their feelings and feel more comfortable opening up to other women for advice. They can help each other in times of need, whether it’s bringing over a home-cooked meal or spending leisure time together in a spa.
Working Together
Girlfriends often work together on projects to improve their lives and the lives of those around them. For many years, I’ve met with friends every week at a coffeehouse and we plan charity projects that we carry out several times a year. Each time we meet, we donate a dollar or two to put in a kitty to be given to someone in need.
Have Fun
Women enjoy having fun together. They may go out together to watch a chick-flick or fashion event that their male partners want nothing to do with. Plus, it’s nice to get away and see the world through a feminine perspective.
Give Feedback
Retirement doesn’t mean retiring from life. Many women have dreams to start their own businesses or take on meaningful projects later in life. They can empower each other to achieve their goals by offering feedback and support along the way.
Share Caregiving
Often, women become caregivers to their parents, friends or family members. This takes a toll after a while, and assistance from friends who care is vital to make sure the caregiver doesn’t burn out.
Emotional Support
Going through a personal illness when you’re alone is difficult. Girlfriends are important to help with doctor appointments, patient advocacy and emotional support.
Body Changes
Women understand what’s going on with their bodies and can relate to each other when a friend has a hot flash, grows chin hairs or has difficulty dealing with sex and relationships. It’s easier to talk to each other about these topics than to a man or doctor who may make their feelings seem insignificant.
There are many other reasons why forming a girlfriend network is important to enrich women’s lives.
Let’s Chat:
Do you have a group of women you can reach out to in times of need or just to have some fun? Tell us about it in the comments below.
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I have moved around all my life and while I have met lots of people, I don’t have any close friends. I have my husband who is more then just my friend. He is 80 and I’m 77 so we are at that time in our lives when your future is not a sure thing. Don’t know what I would do on my own. I would carry on as I hope he would to.
Same with me, ages and circumstances. My closest friends are now phone friends who live quite a distance from me. We can still talk on the phone but get together once a year if at all. I’m sad about it but haven’t made any friends in the new location (2.5 years here). Able to keep busy, seldom bored, but miss people.
I am very blessed with my wonderful female friends. I have a close friend from high school, one from my freshman year at college, several who are class officers from my university( we have a bookclub, go to baseball, to see plays), a group of female friends in my religious congregation,(study Bible together and support each other spiritually), a group of female friends from the theatres where I act or volunteer , a group of friends who read plays together on zoom once every two weeks, a group of friends from graduate school ( we studied abroad together for a semester). Friends I go to lunch with, the opera, concerts, museums, walk on the beach with- then a group of friends at my Pilates and gym classes. Friends I go to art shows with( many of my good friends are artists), and a group I do polar plunge with…. couldn’t live with these friends!
That’s wonderful that you have such a huge network of friends. You are truly blessed.
You are very fortunate to have so many dear friends in your life, Jeanne! I have found it to be rare that so many women would come together on such a regular basis, for friendship and support. I’m happy for you. Consider yourself blessed!
I am happy to say I have a group of five girlfriends that has been meeting for coffee and game playing every Tuesday for five years. We all cherish this time so much. The youngest is 65 and the oldest is 80.
Good for you, Beth! This definitely a blessing!