Teresa Amaral Beshwate, MPH, is an author and life coach who exclusively helps widows to move forward and learn to live and love their life again after the loss of their spouse. Her latest book, Life Reconstructed: A Widow’s Guide to Coping with Grief, is now available.

Latest Posts By Teresa Beshwate

1 week ago

Why Resolutions Often Fail and What We Can Do Differently

Ready or not, 2022 has arrived, and along with it, the usual array of resolutions and the ever-popular notion of New Year, New You. Yet, just as predictable as a new year arriving is the waning of motivation and the abandonment of resolutions…

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1 month ago

Don’t Deck the Halls (If You Don’t Want to)

If this December you are feeling anything but merry and bright, it’s perfectly okay. There is no requirement to be “in the spirit,” or peaceful or joyful. And by all means, if you don’t feel like it, don’t deck the halls or hang the stockings with care…

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2 months ago

Can Gratitude Stall Healing? Yes, When It’s Forced!

As a life coach for widows, I often talk with people who are using gratitude against themselves. Self-inflicted, forced gratitude is how many people attempt to kick themselves into a better emotional state. It isn’t effective…

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3 months ago

When You Don’t Feel Qualified for Life

If you’ve lived six decades or more, you have probably experienced some unexpected and profoundly difficult life events. Perhaps the loss of a spouse, divorce, an unsuccessful business venture or being let go from the job you loved…

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4 months ago

Why People Are Difficult and What to Do About It

Think about the person who frustrates you the most. Perhaps it’s a family member, colleague, neighbor, or friend. Maybe you find yourself thinking, They just don’t seem to get it, or their behavior is completely unacceptable. Wouldn’t it be nice…

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5 months ago

Can You Pinpoint Your Identity After 60?

With six or more decades of life under our belt, we have lived long enough to gain new identities and release old ones. In some cases, identity is established based on our phase of life. We were first a daughter, then a student, perhaps a wife…

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6 months ago

3 Steps to Finding You After a Life Transition

The early decades of life often provide a built-in, already prescribed identity for many. We are students, then perhaps spouses, professionals, parents, or maybe all of those at once. Our identity is so intertwined with these roles…

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6 months ago

How the Wisdom of the Older Generation Can Strip Limitations and Point to Longevity

My husband and I were out of state, celebrating our wedding anniversary when his heart stopped beating. I was 39 years old and suddenly, despite my best efforts, I was a widow. I had no clue how I was going to navigate this unfamiliar territory…

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8 months ago

Activating Acceptance When All You See Is Loss

If you’re in your seventh decade of life or beyond, no doubt you have experienced some plot twists. Whether illness, divorce, death or an otherwise unexpected curve ball that life threw at you. In my conversations with hundreds of people who have lost a spouse…

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9 months ago

Why Being Negative Is Natural for Us

Human brains are hard-wired in primitive ways and have just one goal – survival. They achieve the goal of keeping us alive in three primary ways: by prompting us to stay safe, seek pleasure, and be efficient. Before humans were established…

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