Growing into my wisdom each year, I have noticed the desire for ease and simplicity.
It wasn’t always like this.
I spent many years wasting my energy and time worrying about things that I couldn’t control and really didn’t matter. It was a vicious cycle that I was unaware how to stop.
Then Midlife happened.
I vowed to take on a whole new perspective. It meant taking a hard look at how I was viewing my piece of the world and adjusting as needed.
It meant uncovering beliefs that were taught to me, not necessarily accepted by me.
This was initially brought on by denial, not by choice.
I found myself in a highly toxic work environment. One where my wisdom and expertise were not valued, in fact, they were not even acknowledged.
I was miserable, and I didn’t understand why. My husband noticed and encouraged me to quit.
But how could I possibly quit? I had no Plan B!
Eventually, I made the decision and left the job. It wasn’t until after I walked away from the toxicity that I really started to unravel. How could I have been so naive? I beat myself up, feeling ashamed. I was certain karma was getting back at me for my transgressions decades ago when I, too, most likely didn’t listen to anyone in their 50s, 60s and beyond.
That pity party didn’t last long. I had to turn my choice into a teachable moment not only for me, but other women who were not valued due to their age.
It was at that moment Fiercely50ish was born. My mission was to make sure women in Midlife and way beyond knew just how relevant, necessary, and needed they are!
Since then, I’ve not looked back!
I realized that my complacency and failing to advocate for myself in the job I left made my ‘invisibility’ worse.
I did not want other women to be exposed to this ridiculous and often hurtful treatment. I knew there was a way for women to rise above stereotypical beliefs and walk into their power and brilliance. Age has nothing to do with capabilities, and I was not going to let anybody tell me otherwise.
So, how does a woman in Midlife and beyond stop this nonsense?
My answer is, through getting visible with her confidence and style.
Aging has no playbook, if you will. Prior to Midlife, there was a plethora of resources to help us manage and navigate. Remember What to Expect While Expecting; a book detailing pregnancy. And the countless resources about child-rearing, marriage, and everything else but aging.
It’s as if nobody wanted to address aging, especially aging women.
Well, that’s where society is wrong.
Hitting a certain number of birthdays has nothing to do with who you are as an individual, your abilities, your experiences. But, my lovely Sixty and Me women, it is up to us to wear our age proudly.
Age is simply an image, and we get to portray this image every single day. This, to me, is exciting.
As a fashion expert, I’ve learned to never underestimate the power of clothes; what they say about you or how they make you feel.
My husband and I have made a conscious decision to remove clutter. Our last move caused us to really examine what was important and what needed to be let go.
Many of you have done the same. Perhaps you have sold your homes and opted for a smaller dwelling, perhaps you’ve hit the road with an RV, or are enjoying the world on a boat. The point is you’ve made some changes that make your lives perhaps easier and much simpler.
As I work with clients, the same rings true for their style.
How many clothes do we really need?
Before I launched Fiercely50ish, I suffered from Closet Clutter. I had so many clothes! Did I wear all of them? Nope.
No matter how I organized, folded, or displayed my clothes, there were A LOT!
I couldn’t say goodbye to these clothes. They were part of my history. Many were there to remind me that I would “someday” get back into them.
It was an emotional experience that caused unwanted stress. I didn’t want this in my life any longer. It didn’t fit in my simplicity plan.
Simple, effortless style is possible. I promise.
You may have heard or even subscribe to the capsule concept. It began decades ago, in the mid 1970s, when Susie Faux opened her boutique, Wardrobe, where the capsule wardrobe was born. Per her definition, it is a “limited number of essential or staple items that you can wear for multiple reasons.”
In the 1980s, fashion icon Donna Karan introduced her “Seven Easy Pieces” collection focusing on the capsule concept of creating many outfits from basic pieces.
Capsules are smart, they can reflect our style personality and can cure closet clutter. They save time, they save money, and they eliminate decision-fatigue.
Just in time for fall, I’ve created the 2022 Fall Classic Style Capsule with a French Twist. If you gravitate toward a simple and timeless look that is found in the Classic wardrobe, you’ll love this capsule. Who better than the French to perfect the Classic look?
Capsules are not about not buying more, but buying better so that you’re building a foundation of clothes that you can wear wherever you’re going or whatever you’re doing and will last many seasons. Simple style made easy is what it’s all about.
I want you to enjoy this age. We have so much to do and experience. Worrying about what’s in our closets or how to put outfits together that reflect our unique personality should not be on our to-do list.
Have you felt invisible after Midlife? Have you found support through the roughest times? Has your style changed to make you feel more visible and vibrant? In what ways? Do you think simplicity gives you more and better ways to express yourself?
At age 64 I am 6 months into learning the fashion retail trade and thoroughly enjoy myself everyday. Several years in my fifties menopause caused me to take the pedal off from my sales career where I retired from paid work but spent time with my young grandchildren. Now that they are growing up I decided to get back to work. Having the 60 and me support and inspirations has most definitely been a major part of discovering the new me and will continue to be. Thank you to Margaret such a lovely friendly person. ❤
The author, Susan, states that she spent years wasting her energy & time (when she was young) worrying about things that she couldn’t control & didn’t really matter.
I’ve done the same.
But you know what? Those things mattered THEN, when I was young.
That’s what we did. And it doesn’t matter —we can’t change what we were once like. Learn from it, perhaps.