How to Fight Loneliness: Advice From 50 Real Women
Loneliness is a big issue for older women. With our children out of the house, many of the “automatic” relationships that supported us in the past are no longer available. In addition, many of us have gone through a divorce or lost our partner.
So, today, I want to share some advice from 50 of your Sixty and Me sisters on how to beat loneliness at any age. I hope that you will join the discussion!
Treat yourself! Order a “Celebrate Friendship” scarf now and celebrate your loved ones – and yourself!
What advice would you give to someone who is struggling to make friends after 50 or just feeling a little lonely? Do you think that it is possible to feel lonely, even when you are surrounded by others?
I find that washing your hair helps the mood! Even better if you pay someone to do it…spoil yourself! Get a slightly new look from your hairdresser maybe!
Some people get a job at a Disneyland type place. A little extra cash, many people of all different kinds and ages to chat with briefly ! Sometimes you can make a difference or find something in common with…discover neither one of you is alone afterall! The company supplies work clothes!
Then when you are home alone,it’s a nice change! Connect by other means with old friends if you want…enjoy peace.
Try to appreciate who you really are.
It breaks my heart reading these notes on loneliness from so many of my sisters from all over. I am 84. Just 84 not 84 years old. I’ve always been very content spending time with me. I love to learn new things, read any chance I get. Have a long list of books I want to read. Love to decorate my home. I love to cook and bake and try to be helpful to my neighbors. I am blessed with a man I love and my problem is not so much being lonely but finding the time to work on a book I am planning to write. It’s a memoir of how a man who married my best friend 60 years ago and we both grieved, is now the love of my life & I am his. We love spending time with each other other & feel guilty when I spend time by myself in my spare room writing. So that is my dilemma. How do I justify separating myself from him? It seems like I dive into things and can forget about everything and everyone around me. Help!
I am happy to see this article, as I am in the very same boat. When my husband retired, he wanted to move to FL to be by two of our daughters. After being here eight years, they don’t have time for us. I havent made any friends, just a few acquaintances – They don’t live near me. I also don’t drive, due to an accident I was in a year ago. We’re in an isolated part of town, no sidewalks to walk to town. I get crazy being alone!
Good evening! I’m not retired,but oddly enough,aging anyway! So the calendar says…don’t think about it..or say the 3 letter word……
Pandemic gave me a small taste of it..of course different. I still went to the grocery store and cooked meals. Well grown son helped once in awhile.
Eventually a friend from work started to call daily. Real live chat awesome! I enjoyed changing clothes 3 times a day with the temp change,ha, SoCal. Good to make use of retail therapy clothes purchases! Lol.. Can’t do that while working!
Did our parents think about what to do during retirement? I never heard anything.
Mom got dementia sometime after leaving work at 65. Passed at almost 86. After paid help failed,we family, did it all. Dad was self-employed so stayed longer than 65. They both existed at home, doing nothing special. He passed at 86….before mom. He wasn’t as bad as mom mentally. Lucky him,died after a couple days in intensive care,no weeks of being tied to tube’s or anything.
They looked like they just did it… I wonder whom I am at this senior age. Not the same as younger me. Never had that thought before!
I’m taking one of the same meds mom did for hypertension! I try not ‘to be’ my ages classical style. Health is trying to… My body doesn’t like too many of those drugs. Ok enough for now!
Who am I…….