One of the best pieces of advice I can offer to support lifelong health is, “don’t let a health set-back become a new health set-point.”
Healthy habits aren’t just a one-time choice. They’re a series of small choices made day after day, week after week, month after month to build a foundation for well-being. Sprinkled in are the big choices you make in the face of adversity.
Think about that for a minute. Life continually ebbs and flows.
Sometimes it’s hard to get started on the path to well-being, other times it’s easy to get started and hard to be consistent, and still other times – those wonderful times where you feel empowered and a little smug, perhaps – you’re consistently making good decisions that support your healthy lifestyle vision and goals.
But often, when you’re really in the flow – life intervenes with an illness or injury, work or family pressures that derail your great habits. This type of health set-back is a critical turning point, a fork in the road, and the direction you choose will determine your future health trajectory.
In 2017, as part of a commitment to myself to be as fit and healthy as possible on my 60th birthday, I choreographed and performed a high energy dance piece with a local dance company. I was lean and fit, having fun, and feeling healthier than I had in a couple of years.
Then in early 2018, I hurt my back trying to maneuver a water tank that was far too heavy to manage. That started a year-long process of pain management, fits and starts back into a fitness routine, waking up feeling tired and sore, and hobbling around in frustration!
For the fist time in 10 years I had to pull out of the dance concert.
The whole year was a really interesting experience. I’ve always known that it’s easier to stay in good physical condition than to start from scratch and get into good shape – but that year I lived it.
It’s also easier to encourage positive aging expectations when you feel pretty good most of the time! Trying to navigate through both sleep and activity with pain and stay upbeat about retaining a healthy active lifestyle – regardless of age or challenges – was a lesson in humility.
Sometimes I felt like just saying, “To heck with it, I’ll just downsize my life!”
Gratefully, I recognized this moment as a health crossroads and persisted with physical therapy and physical training until I could start fully reclaiming my lifestyle.
Knowing what it feels like to be physically strong and flexible motivated me through the initial discomfort of moving my body every day in ways that improve strength, mobility, and endurance. I recognized how much harder it would have been if I had never known how it felt to be physically fit.
I share this with you as both a confession and encouragement. I understand that consistently making choices that support well-being isn’t usually the easiest path. I also get how much determination it takes to navigate set-backs that threaten your vitality and independence.
This is especially true after 60 when family members, friends, and others seem more prone to offer a narrative along the lines of “well you’ve had a good run but it’s time to give that up.”
Absolutely no judgement if in response to a challenge, you choose to take something out of your life. But make sure it’s a conscious choice measuring the pros and cons – not just a default into “easier” or buckling under common negative expectations of what’s possible as we age.
I was back in rehearsals for the 2019 dance show, with a few concessions: perform one dance rather than two, warm-up longer, cool-down and stretch afterwards, and be more conscious of body mechanics every time! Both perseverance and adaptation have been key to continuing to do what I love!
I would love to hear your story.
What health set-back are you negotiating? What keeps you moving forward? Have you felt like giving up? What strategies could you use to regain fullest function possible? Please use the comments below to share with the community.
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I’m 72. 2 years ago, I fell and fractured my back in 2 places. THAT really took me down. I was in serious pain for about 18 months, then ended up with cortisone injections which really reduced the pain. Then, about 3 months ago, I fell again and hurt, but did not fracture, my back but fractured my wrist. My wrist is healed now, and my back is doing quite well. I have a difficult time walking any distance as it causes pain…but I’m so much better than I was. I have had 3-4 other falls since my wrist, and I could easily become quite afraid to do too much. BUT, I have decided that, at 72, I don’t have forever to get back on the wagon! If I’m going to do it, I better get at it! I started Noom (a weight loss program), am eating healthy, am getting plenty of sleep, keeping well hydrated, and am ready to start some physical activity. I’ll be starting a Tai Chi class this month which I’m looking very much forward to…and I looked up senior exercises online and have started them at home! I feel so energized and excited…something I haven’t felt in quite some time. I agree…making conscious choices and committing to become healthier is the way to go…even in my 70’s.
Good morning ladies. I’ve tried to respond individually but for some reason it won’t let me. It just kicked me out again so I’m trying once more! I sincerely appreciate you sharing your stories! I think it helps to know others are going through similar things – both the courage and perseverance, and the frustration! Ultimately, making the choice to be positive – to take whatever steps forward we can isn’t just made once. It has to be reaffirmed every day. Know that doing the stretching, moving, eating nutritious foods, positive affirmations all help you move up the health curve- no matter how slowly. Activate every dimension possible to balance out challenges. I’m pulling for you and so are all the ladies on this post!
Thanks so much for this great article! I am 73 and had emergency surgery for an acoustic neuroma almost six years ago. It’s been a hard road but I am getting better everyday. It can be done, ladies!! I eat healthy foods and exercise and make art. I am very happy to still be here!!