Is sex after 60 really different for man and women? This is the question that I asked senior dating coach, Lisa Copeland, in a recent interview.
Of course, the simple answer to this question is “it depends on the man and the woman being compared.” Some women have stronger physical needs than others. In addition, there are plenty of older guys who really are primarily looking for emotional intimacy.
Please watch the interview and join the discussion at the end of this article.
But, the broader question still remains. In general, do men and women over 60 look at sex differently?
In one sense, men look at sex as more of an end in itself. Women, on the other hand, tend to see sex as an extension of their relationship with a man. Since, generally speaking, a man will be ready to have sex before a woman, this leaves it up to her to set the physical pace of the relationship.
If all of this sounds overly simplistic, consider the fact that many older women have been out of the dating game for decades. Many of us have been hurt. Others were in one relationship for most of our lives before getting divorced.
So, as we reach our 50s and 60s, we need to take the time to reconnect with ourselves and decide if the rules that we applied to our sex live in our youth still apply.
According to Lisa, the first step is to decide what you want from the relationship. If your goal is to meet your own physical needs, there is nothing wrong with having protected sex with a man on the first date. At the same time, you should realize that this will probably damage your chances of forming a long-term bond.
On the other hand, if you plan on building a long-term relationship, you may want to wait a while to have sex. How long you wait is completely up to you, but, setting boundaries is important. In fact, making a man wait, while still letting him know that you are interested in other ways can help to strengthen the bond between you.
I hope that you enjoy our conversation about love and sex after 60!
Do you think that men and women over 60 look at sex differently? Why or why not? What implications, if any, do you think that this has for dating over 60? Please join the conversation.