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Observations from an 90-Year-Old Woman on How to Fully Engage with Life

By Pat Young October 15, 2022 Mindset

I’ve made the decision to lovingly engage with everything that has life. By ‘life’ I refer to everything that lives, grows and dies. By engage, I mean to validate, to respect, to study, to experience, to question.

The Life That Impacts Me

I am a 90-year-old female, living alone in Maine, by choice, on a quiet, somewhat secluded stretch of sea water. I am surrounded by life in all forms. My years in this setting have fused my love with every living creature, flora, forest and natural miracle that these tired eyes can contain.

So deeply embedded in my soul is this ‘life viewing’, I can close my eyes and trace perfectly the living location of every tree near my cottage and those that are fringed around the silent, cove waters.

This is my church, my place of worship, my art gallery, the delicious food that feeds my heart, the ever-changing, never changing vision that greets my fading eyes each day, all day. It follows me into my dreams and promises to be there at the blessing of sunrise.

Why I Didn’t See It Earlier

I do wonder how I journeyed through all those past rough and tumble years of my life, far away from this discovered truth that I find I cannot live without for a second today.

Where was my heart? Where was my head?

Was I lost in those concrete forests of the city, never tuned in to the bird singing in a nearby tree or the perfection of a slow sliding cloud in the piercing, blue sky? I cannot bring back those years. They lived in another me, a somewhat hollow, shallow me.

When we look back on our lives, and this is the pattern of those of us who have reached a hefty digit, memories flood into view and so many are not pleasant to recall or welcome at all. So many times, when we weren’t kind or gentle or even honest with others, but especially ourselves.

But hark, there is a reprieve from these regretted past deeds and actions. It is old age. Forgiveness can cancel out transgressions as we are reminded, daily, that each hour, each minute is a gift and should be lived happily and without guilt.

My Decision

And so, my new decision, to respect everything living, has brought precious gifts. I find I am kinder to myself, more respectful of my family, friends and neighbors. Nature looks back at me with outstretched limbs. Even my houseplants seem brighter, greener.

A tiny black spider has made its way onto my desk as I write. My impulse, born of the other me, is to kill it. But, my new code of respect for everything living, prompts me to gently capture the tiny life and transport it outside to my deck. How simple. How respectful. How life-loving.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Are you fully engaged with life? What things are precious to you today that you overlooked when you were younger? Please share your observations in the comments below.

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Kathy Racine

This is how I am living my life now. I am 66 and live by myself with my cat – on purpose. My apartment is decorated with all my favorite things and way too many plants! It is my sanctuary. I have great respect for all life – yes, all bugs, also! A walk in nature fills me up, but doesn’t happen enough. I am still working full-time out of necessity. Thank you for the wonderful article!

FFYy

Thanks for the reminder to enjoy the NOW Pat.

Patricia

Pat is a kindred spirit. Nature has been my sanctuary, my touchstone for a good portion of my life. 💚

Madde

You truly touched my heart with your story and made me take a closer look at my own life. Thank you for your honesty and brilliance. Blessings from Madde in Canada. My heart is now open to receive…..💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

Wendy

A beautiful essay. I’m freaked out by spiders too. I’ll try your thought next time. One of my sons take everything outside, even cockroaches.

Rose Marie

Simply beautiful!

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The Author

Pat Young is a proud and happy octogenarian. She is a publisher, a published writer, a note card creator and a knitter, as well as a lover of life and the great state of Maine.

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